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Madam has had a few discipline issues lately, and has really been pushing the boundaries. She has been hurting other children -pushing, shoving biting etc.
I took her to playgroup during the week, and on the way I made it very, very clear – if she misbehaved I would take her home.
We had been there about an hour, and she had been playing happily with the other kids on the wooden castle, when out of the blue she stabbed at three of the other kids with a stick. Luckily there were no serious injuries – just three scraming crying children.
Straight away I told her we were going home.
She screamed, yelled, ran away and threw a temper tantrum.
The whole time I was quietly telling her to please go to the car.
In the middle of this, another mother – who I had a go at last summer for leaving her kids in the car on a stinking hot day – had the nerve to intervene.
She asked my daughter directly if she would like to stay and play and be good instead of going home, then started suggesting different “time out” strategies etc..
I finally got mine into the car and home – she cried and cried, very distressed, but she learnt that I meant what I said.
Next thing this woman sends an sms, saying she is happy to let me try time outs at the mext session. Sorry? She is happy to let me try to discipline my child her way???? Grrrr. She made a very distressing situation 100 times worse, and now wants to tell me how to raise my child???
How could any person think this is acceptable behaviour???


Posted by katelt, 23rd May 2014


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  • I think you did the exact right thing every child needs to know who is the boss and what is exceptable I would tell this woman you will discipline your child your way. good luck.xx


    • Grrr. Good on you for doing as you said you would…..also not stooping to the woman’s level and responding in front of your daughter. Consistency is very important for a child, even using the same phrases if you can for specific situations if you can. Does your daughter go to Daycare at all? A friend of mine found out what phrases they use and she used the same. All the staff are trained and use the same ones so they don’t get confused there. Her Missy knew exactly what she meant but did try to push the boundaries pretty well at one stage. I will admit I have made suggestions to people I know but I have never said that was what they had to do or told the child they could do something else instead of the parents’ instructions.

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  • How frustrating – not what you wanted or needed!

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  • We as Mothers need to support each other … not make it harder.

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  • I would be very upset if I got that sms too. Some people don’t know where to stop do they?

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  • How rude of that woman. You poor mum. Good on you for sticking to you guns and taking your daughter home

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  • good and nice story

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  • nice story

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  • What a busy body she must be, some people just have to big note themselves.

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  • Oh yes I had a situation over the weekend not similar, but just as interfering from another person and it really does get on your goat when people stick their noses into the raising of your child.

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  • I have to agree i would of been very angry if anyone interferes with the way i discipline my child, we are called their parents for a reason.
    Maybe message the mum back saying thanks for your advice but i find my way the best way to deal with my child but thanks again.

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  • I thought that was a rule, unless someone askes for your parenting advice. Don’t give it. Everyone has the right to raise their kids the way they wish. Moms and mother in laws are normally the worst. If it was a random lady from playgroup I would cut her down real quick.

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  • you should never intervene in front of the child or involve them as it sends conflicting messages. I’d politely be explaining that whilst you appreciate the advice intervening in front of you child made the situation worse and was confusing for your child. Also, good on you for following through on your word – you said you would take her home and you did. Important for kids to learn that you mean business

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  • That is just so frustrating when you already had a really good strategy in place. Stick with your plan to go home if your little girl does the biting etc. because that’s what you told her the consequence would be. How annoying that the interrupter wanted to bring inconsistency into it. When my little one tried out screaming etc there were plenty of times I felt like I wished the floor would open up and swallow me, what with trying to be calm and deal with a child and an adult who was in my face at the same time. On a positive note though, I found that being really vigilant with noticing any good behaviours and commenting straightaway eg ” oh, great waiting for a turn” or “you’re making it fun for everyone, thank you darling” or whatever, actually worked with my little one. Before going places I used to say “if it’s not fun for everyone we’re not doing it” ( specially it wasn’t fun for me to see bad behaviour). Hope you have a really good time next time you go and keep your head and your spirits up!

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  • really who doe this person think she is in the first place and I sorry but I have a very short fuse so if had been me she would have copped a mouth full but to than send you an sms well i would have told raise your own and I will raise mine and if you think you are the perfect Mother than I would proceed to tell just how much of a fantastic mum she was not and I do not do polite at all when you have set me off that if it had been me I may have taught her some knew words that she may not have known.

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