I’m a single mum. It was never the plan. After being with my partner for three years and buying a house we had our first daughter. I know it was my plan, maybe not his. I thought having a baby would be the glue to bring us together. It was,however only the busy new life that brought us together. I was unhappy. It can be hard to admit, what about the perfect picture of family life. Then we had a second daughter.
Then I realized how lonely I was in my partnership. Going through the motions.
After five years of separation, I realize the journey of parenting in separation requires just as much maturity, communication and compromise as a marriage! Our friendship is quite strong. We rose above pettiness and self pity to thrive as a separated family. It’s not without tears and sometimes down points. I’ve learned how strong I can be. How resilient and how human I am. I don’t mind sharing difficult times. There is no perfect picture. Everyone has their own formula. As long as you’re not burying soulful sadness. Let yourself be a shining mum, whether separated or mum.
Posted anonymously, 13th April 2015