so many Mums are having their children in their late 30’s or early 40’s nowadays. Couples are marrying later and having a family later. Most nurses are brilliant, but just like the general population there are some insensitive ones.

I was 37 when I had our first child, some people should mind their own bees wax and stop being so judgemental, what rude nurse.

My mum was 40 when she had my sister! Not old at all.

No it isn’t too old, I was 37 when I had our daughter, some people like that nurse are so thick and out of touch, a lot of women are having children later on in life.

Dont let others feel make you feel this way. What a horrible thing for her to say, and I am sorry for your loss. I am 33 and would consider having another child. I have 3 children already though and know hubby is happy to keep our family where it is. Be true to yourself. Your doing a great job.

Many thanks to all who read my story I appreciate all the thoughts so thank you very much. I sit and think about this sometimes and it still upsets me to this day. But actually talking about it has made me feel so much better. I know it happened a while ago but have never really spoke about it until now so thanks everyone. Now onto something else I would like to say that its so good to have a website like this one so people can express themselves I love this website so to everyone I hope you have a great day and thank you

I am absolutely horrified about the comments made by that nurse. To think that still happens in this day and age! I was of the opinion that being your age and having a baby was actually the norm age range anyway these days. You are not an old mum!! I’m 31 and I don’t think I will be blessed again with having another child but I’m sure if I did I would feel as distraught as you did after miscarrying and then having to suffer those comments. I’m sure you were terribly upset and making a complaint against that woman would have been the last thing on your mind, but had you of done that woman would have deserved whatever ever disiplinary ramifications she got. What a terribly opinionated person and nurse. I thought one of the usual givens with that occupation is you can normally expect compassion and understanding. Thanks for sharing your story.

Hi I cant believe she said that to you, what a absolute cow and how inconsiderate for christ sake you just had a miscarriage where is her compassion she obviously is a sad women. I wouldnt feel bad about being a old mum I had just turned 35 when my first was born and just before my 37 I had my 2nd. I always deeamt of 3 but dont think that dream will come true but I have thought of maybe gicing it a couple years and try again if could haven it by 40 that be great. I had to have ceasereans as my first come at 25 weeks so its bit scary thinking 3 ceasereans especially at my age. It seem being older mum is the fashion these days

This is for the older mum. I had my last child at the age of 36 and never thought of being too old in fact I think its a perfect age to have children as we are more mature and ready for the challenges ahead, I find I am a lot more patient. How dare that nurse make such a cruel comment to you regarding your age especially after what you had experienced. The nurse obviously is not fit to be in such a caring role. You are never to old to have kids its entirely up to the individual, and no-one has the right to judge the age of becoming a MUM, Good luck with your family all the best