Trouble with a capital T - Real Mum story on MoM

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Ok where to start, my brother is 29 and his partner is 22 they dont have any kids as of yet and not sure when they want too. My brothers partner has a sister who has just turned 14 and she is trouble with a capital T. She hasnt been to school over a year (police and docs ignore it) she has been to court for stabbing her dad and got a caution. She hits her mum, drinks alcohol, smoked pot, sleeps with older guys, goes out and doesn’t listen to curfews so comes home at midnight or 3am a depends when feels like it , has stretcher earrings and 3 piercings on face, dresses tarty and skater, always walks round with hickeys and shows them off proudly,swears worse then any man I have ever known, bad attitude and the list goes on. Ok her parents are alcohoics and do drugs and dont really care about her they just want the money from centrelink. My brothers partner has put pressure on him to become her guardian and I dont know if it is the smartest thing to do, im not a heartless person but while she has been here on holidays for th last 2 weeks, she has been trouble we had to get police out lookijg for her both weekends.as couldn’t find her till 3 am and then didnt come home till next day the next weekend. Police have gave her a scare about school and detention centre now but will she change? Is my brother silly to consider it? Im just needing advice and needed to vent as brother wont listen to me

Posted by premmiemum, 6th June 2013

7 Comments

- - june11 said
  - 01 Mar 2017
    10:18 pm
I don’t know what the laws are now. In the late 1980s in SA some of the teachers told the children (definitely 5 year olds) that they had rights. If they didn’t want to do what their parents asked them to do they didn’t have to.
If their parents yelled at them (even if there wasn’t bad words) it was verbal abuse. They couldn’t physically stop a child from walking out the door and going where they wanted to. That was physical abuse.. I won’t bore you with the rest of it. I have 2 nephews that were taught this. The parents of quite a few of the children were not happy. Result was a group of parents asked for a meeting with the Principal. Alledgedly it was govt. policy. The meeting got a bit “heated”. One family had DOCS rock up one night – no prior arrangement.
The Dad sometimes went away with his job. Fortunately he was home as my sister-in-law wouldn’t have opened the door. They could have had false ID as it had been made public that some had been stolen. One of their children was disabled with behavioural issues. They tried to tell the parents how to remedy the issues. The parents had already, both them and the child had counselling and therapy and had already trialled those methods. They had no other suggestions. What they had were out of text books, no children of their own so had no experience. In the end the parents told them until they could give them constructive practical ideas not to bother to call again or to send it in writing. They never heard from them again.

- - BellaB said
  - 30 Apr 2016
    11:02 pm
He’s very young to take on so much trouble.

- - mom113055 said
  - 26 Mar 2015
    9:24 pm
it s a great top story

- - mom113055 said
  - 26 Mar 2015
    9:09 pm
great

- - Emilyypamela said
  - 05 Jun 2014
    3:37 pm
There is need for positive influences. Not sure how you approach the subject. Good luck though.

- - kylesnova said
  - 14 Apr 2014
    10:38 am
It sounds like she really does need a loving home and good influences in her life. It also sounds like it will be a major amount of time, effort, patience and consistency to try and achieve positive choices and changes in her life.
- mom57522 replied
  
  03 Jan 2015 , 8:30 pm
  I agree with everything you’ve said.