God, they’re a big young. I think you did the right thing not sobbing, as long as your child isn’t participating

That’s shocking. I have to wonder what the parents were doing whilst the cigarette was being smoked

smoking

Possibly no more sleepovers at their place?!

I would raise this with the parents; they may be unaware!

OMG! This is my daughters age. Where are the parents!

Hi mums; to further the conversation; my daughter had told the girls mother, however it seems things have gotten worse and I have had to ask my daughter to distance her self. The child is for other reasons now seeing a psychologist; however I believe it maybe the girls environment (older teenage sisters) and possible not enough dicapline; I believe our environment and support makes us who we are; we are lucky we have this site for such media to be discussed. The girl is a worry and some of things happening are horrifying. I will keep you informed. This is why we have welfare, Im worried about the childs environment

Wow 8 & 9 smoking? that’s just crazy, love the fact your daughter has that openness with you and confided in you. x

It’s hard when peer pressure comes in to it. I believe that education is the key too, unfortunately many others disagree.

Good that your daughter informed you. Education aside, do the parents of the girls that were smoking smoke? Doing what their parents do if that is the case.

thats tough and sometimes you have to talk to the adults first because some children are nothing like their parents and might just have that evil streak

I think its great that you have a great bond with your children, but if your child was to do something behind your back because they know you wouldnt agree wouldnt you want to be told as a parent i know i would.
I think if i was in that situation i would of said something to the girls parents regardless of what i thought the punishment or not would of been.

Great to see that you have a clear open communication going between yourself and your child. It’s something that I had with my mother and something that I value to this day.

I hope those girls felt sick & threw up. I think you have a good bond with your daughter that she was able to confide in you & by the sounds of her actions she knew what the others did was bad. Praise her on her good judgement & common sense.

Talk to your daughter and ask her what she thought of these kids smoking..she might surprise you with her response

You should be proud of your child and tell them so. Tell them you are pleased they can tell right for wrong. It’s an indicator that you have taught them well.

an open and honest relation ship between children and their parent really does go a long way and this is not a new thing it was going on when I was a kid and I am talking over 30 years ago. As the laws are alot tougher now regarding the purchase of any of these type of products or related products you can only assume that they are stealing them which is also a problem with in it’s self unless they are buying them from a shop with no regards to the law than the in that case the place of purchase should be reported. Or you can hope for as a parent is you have instilled in your child the real regard for what is right and wrong and that they will make the right choices for them selves when or if the time arises. It also helps when the child has caring parents that get involved in their child’s life as unfortunately the truth is there are alot of parents out their that can not be bothered or are into illegal acts them selves that they just don’t care. What shocks me is how many parents out there are into drugs and don’t see a problem with it and it seems to be getting more the norm and people find it hard to believe if you do not do drugs of any type nor drink. Hubby and I run into this alot and I still get shocked as to how many think this is fine and do this sort of thing infront of their children and eventually with them as well and it even shocks me to see what sort of jobs they have in the community and in positions that they are looked up to so it is sad but these kids do not stand much of a chance but you have done a good job as a parent as your child is showing you by informing you of thing that they obviously know is not the right way to behave. Well done to you and you should feel proud

I think it’s great that Mel 1 talked to her teens in regard to this. After all we as mums can offer advice and reflect, but an answer coming from someone of the current generation in words and ways your daughter can relate to is like coming from the horses mouth. I still can’t believe how young those kids were that were smoking.

Its a toughy!!! Its great your daughter talks to you. You really need that communication as they grow. Just talked to my teens about what you should do. Their advice was to teach her to resist peer presssure and use her own judgement. Showing her you trust her to make the right decision might just give her the confidence to make the right decisions even if her friends are not. (Clever answer by my teens I think!)

I think it’s great that your daughter felt she could tell you. My goodness how things change over a period of time, as I remember people were only getting into those sorts of things in their early, mid and late teens when I was growing up.