What To Believe - Real Mum story on MoM

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Genetically, I have 5 brothers and a sister. 3 brothers have a different mother (my dads first wife died), 1 brother has the same mother (mum had an affair that resulted in Andrew, before she met dad) and 1 brother and my sister I share the same parentage. We immigrated from England in 1967. The 2 eldest brothers stayed in England, Andrew was abandoned and I didn’t learn about him until I was 16. And only because I was looking where I shouldn’t have been. Anyway, that’s another story. This one is about the youngest of dads 3 boys with his first wife. He was around 4-5 when his mum died and when my mum and dad married. He’s become a psychologist and analysed the whole family situation growing up. My opinion, our childhood wasn’t ideal, dad was very controlling with a vile temper due to PTSD from being in the army (he fought in the Malayan war) I know it wasn’t the best, I can see flaws, but it wasn’t thepat bad. At worst, we were all detached, emotionally. But thus brother is blaming my mum. What he explains he experienced is nothing to how I remember things. He’s older, maybe he remembers it better. I am so confused. How could things be as he described, even a little bit, and he not see it?

Posted by mom81879, 21st November 2015

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- - mom94125 said
  - 28 Dec 2015
    5:58 pm
yeah it can be hard trying to track down families and their history. i am having an issue trying to find all mine because of a name change.

- - mom90758 said
  - 21 Nov 2015
    12:11 pm
Indeed. Brothers and sisters looking at their past remember so many different things.
It must have been so hard on your dad suffering PTSD. A counselor could have helped him a lot.
- mom93821 replied
  
  22 Nov 2015 , 6:12 am
  Thankfully, PTSD is now acknowledged and the stigma has gone.
  - mom90758 replied
    
    22 Nov 2015 , 12:05 pm
    
    Indeed. Nowadays it’s easier to get help, absolutely!
- - mom165081 said
  - 21 Nov 2015
    10:48 am
How very confusing for you all! Different aged children remember things from childhood quite differently – some feel quite a burden to keep things fro others in situations like these. Everyone remembers things from their personal experiences – don’t let that harm your reality.

- - mom93821 said
  - 21 Nov 2015
    9:44 am
PTSD impact on everyone differently and experiences will be different and everyone will view their own history through their eyes, experiences and memories. Coming to term with childhood experiences can be difficult and thank you for sharing your story with Moms.