It is my son’s partner’s 21st birthday today. We are all going out to dinner tonight. She was going to bake her own birthday cake until I stepped in, her sister passed on a message through another sister to say they couldn’t go to dinner as they couldn’t afford it. She spends hundreds going away to a non-family member every second weekend, I think around $350 for food. But she can’t go to her sister’s even for a visit. Her father won’t go. Her brother’s won’t go. It isn’t fair. I feel for her, she is always doing things for everyone else, she is such a lovely girl, they have 3 daughters, one isn’t her’s but she treats her like she is. There is not one of her family that offered to do a cake for her, but her mother does two trips to town a day for their township, running errands for the people around her. She does meals on wheels two days a week, but she does nothing for her youngest daughter. it isn’t fair. I love her as if she was my own daughter. We can’t afford much on a disability pension, but we spoilt her, giving her lots of little things that she enjoys doing. My hubby and I are going down to the restaurant to decorate it, her family should be doing this. But no, not for her. It makes me so angry when parents can spend a fortune for others but when it comes to their own child, they can’t do anything. This poor girl rang me in tears, all I could say is it was their loss and that we love her.
Has anyone else got some advice what to say to her, she is such a beautiful girl, a wonderful mum and will be, hopefully, a gorgeous future daughter-in-law.
Lots of love and hugs to all those other daughter’s who go through the same thing.
Posted by dee lindsay, 28th August 2014