3 Tips To Be Your Own Best Friend

How many times do we treat people around us better than what we would ever envisage that we would treat ourselves!

I know I have been guilty of this many times.

How do you treat yourself? Do you treat yourself as you would a best friend?

Quite often the things we say to ourselves and the way we treat ourselves is worse than how we would treat a total stranger.

The things we say to ourselves can be critical and negative. From you look fat, to why did you say that, to why can’t you just be like so and so, to you could not possibly do that (and the list goes on). These are things that you would not dare say to anyone else in your life so why do we say them to ourselves?

Our self-talk is governed and set up based on our self-beliefs and self-esteem. Our self-talk almost becomes our internal mantra that we live our life by. If we do not think that that we are good enough on the inside then we will never feel good enough on the outside.

What is your self-talk? What is it saying about how you feel about yourself?

Here are the 3 tips to be your own best friend…..

Acknowledge what your self-talk is. Start to listen to what it is and what situations you are using negative self-talk.
Understand why your self-talk is what it is, look for the underlying emotional reason why you say these things to yourself.
Commit to yourself that you will build yourself up from the inside out! Starting with your emotions that are causing you to talk negatively to yourself!

Sometimes it can be hard to understand the reasons why you treat yourself in a negative way, so take a step away from the emotion and drama to think what would you say to your best friend if she was saying these things to you? When we step away from the emotion and drama, we can often see clearly what we did not want to see whilst in the cloud of emotion!

Be the change in your life that you need to be!

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46 Comments

- - mom81879 said
  - 20 Nov 2015
    5:38 pm
I don’t have any friends. Not even myself can like me enough to want to be my friend

- - jabelle said
  - 28 Oct 2014
    4:29 pm
yep. And I think you always need to think ‘what advice would I give my friend in this situation?’ then follow that advice.

- - neddie said
  - 09 Aug 2014
    11:43 pm
I agree it’s important to have self confidence and have some self affirmations about things that you like about yourself.

- - ginoula5 said
  - 06 Aug 2014
    8:24 am
Everyone should love themselves that bit more and not put ourselves down x

- - rachkap said
  - 03 Aug 2014
    4:36 am
Great tips thanks for sharing

- - mggarner said
  - 26 Jul 2014
    6:36 pm
I agree to build yourself up from the inside out!

- - skbou said
  - 15 Jul 2014
    10:26 pm
Timely reminder. I am guilty of telling myself “you’re so stupid sometimes”. And no, I definitely wouldn’t say that to a friend.

- - Michelle said
  - 02 Jul 2014
    1:42 pm
I am my best friend.

- - mouse said
  - 02 Jul 2014
    8:54 am
a very interesting read, I am not my own best friend and need to change this

- - nida saeed said
  - 27 Jun 2014
    12:42 pm
A great reminder. Sometimes we get used to the negative talk with ourselves and it effects behaviour so much. Positive thinking is a big blessing, bigger than money.

- - nicky732 said
  - 15 Jun 2014
    11:19 am
I am definitely guilty of this, it’s so hard to stop! I really need to take note of these steps and try and turn it around into positive messages. One day a time!

- - mom61907 said
  - 09 Jun 2014
    8:59 pm
two tips that have helped me are..our minds are like a photo copier, and keep churning out the same old stuff to us year after year, that is , unless we decide to stop what it is us, and begin to feed it positive thoughts…. then it will start to churn out positive suggestions eventually.it does work cause I have tried it and am still feeding it +ve ideas…….

Did you know that the mind naturally tends to go to the negative all the time, so it is our job to keep it on the positive all the time.

It pays off..

- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 08 Jun 2014
    12:32 pm
I loved this article, it truly resonated with me, as I am guilty of not treating myself as well as I would treat others, and it does get you down sometimes without you knowing it.
- debbie rosi replied
  
  08 Jun 2014 , 8:49 pm
  Yes, often we get caught up in our busy lives that we do not even realise how we are treating ourselves. Email me on debbie@debbierossi.com.au for a free 10 day email to improve your self-love! Thank you for reading and commenting on my article.
- - christine_muller said
  - 06 Jun 2014
    1:56 pm
Interesting !! Need to use some of these ideas !
- debbie rosi replied
  
  08 Jun 2014 , 8:48 pm
  Email me on debbie@debbierossi.com.au for a free 10 day email program to help you improve your self-love! One day at a time. Thank you for reading and commenting on my article.
- - jodes77bris said
  - 06 Jun 2014
    9:48 am
This article is SO true! Ive started doing this a few weeks ago and you really do notice the difference in how you feel about yourself, and the way you treat people around you!
- debbie rosi replied
  
  08 Jun 2014 , 8:47 pm
  That is fabulous! One thing a day to treat yourself better! Thank you for reading and commenting on my article.
- - buggerit said
  - 06 Jun 2014
    8:55 am
We discussed this topic with our book club members and the out come was to talk things over with good friends and no self doubt.
- debbie rosi replied
  
  08 Jun 2014 , 8:46 pm
  Absolutely a problem shared is often a great way to help you feel better about things. Thank you for reading and commenting on my article.
- - broke said
  - 04 Jun 2014
    3:17 pm
this is so true thank you for you advise
- debbie rosi replied
  
  08 Jun 2014 , 8:45 pm
  What can you do today to treat yourself better? Thank you for reading and commenting on my article.
- - rovermum said
  - 04 Jun 2014
    2:43 pm
A great read and some great advice.
- debbie rosi replied
  
  08 Jun 2014 , 8:45 pm
  Thank you for reading and commenting on my article. How can you treat yourself better today?
- - mel83ak said
  - 04 Jun 2014
    10:53 am
Great blog. Thanks for the tips and great advice.
- debbie rosi replied
  
  08 Jun 2014 , 8:44 pm
  Thank you for reading and commenting on my article.
- - mummsie said
  - 04 Jun 2014
    9:32 am
My conflicting emotions do create alot of negative self talk. thank you for bringing this to my attention.
- debbie rosi replied
  
  08 Jun 2014 , 8:44 pm
  Yes our emotions and thoughts can cause major conflict within us. Feel free to email me at debbie@debbierossi.com.au for a free 10 day email on ways to improve your self-love. Thank you for reading and commenting on my article.