Be firm and stay strong.
There’s no way I’d want my MIL watching me give birth!

Stick to your guns.
A Man has no right what so ever to demand that anyone be in the room when a Woman is giving birth. The right lies solely with the person giving birth.
So he has walked out…… Im sorry but this Man (word used when I should say sulky male) really is not worthy of you being upset over. Do not feel guilt for his actions. he is acting spoilt and trying to be controlling.

There is no way in hell I’d ever let this happen but it all depends on your relationship with your Mil I guess

There is no way my inlaw will be with me.

It’s your body . Its your birthing experience. You have awho you want. Damn If you didn’t want you husband in the room, I expect he would be upset. Still your choice

Not at all. I wouldn’t let her be there at all. It’s a family thing, a moment for you and hubby.

Unless your husband is extremely useless in this situation, why would you want anyone else there anyway? There are midwives, and doctors and nurses galore to assist you – it sounds almost as though you need to sell tickets to come and see you in pain giving birth.

I think it is best to have your partner only in there with you as you have enough nurses and the doctor there too. Now we are in Covid times hospitals have strict rules. Text your husband and tell him you only want him there to bond with the child. You need to explain that he is so important to you and the family he has created. Come home soon.

I personally only had my partner in the room for both my children and I was extremely happy with my decision both my mum and MIL understood my decision. Giving birth isn’t a spectator’s sport

I don’t understand when birth became a spectator sport? However, all one has to do is tell the midwives who you do and don’t want there and they will sort it out on the day. My hospital actually asked at an appointment if there was anyone I didn’t want to visit/who they’d want me to turn away (tactfully)

The husband has absolutely no right to make any demands on the wife. It is her body, therefore her choice entirely. And to just disappear, sounds like he needs to grow up. If my husband tried this I’d tell him not to bother coming home. As if childbirth isn’t hard enough as it is.

This guy needs to grow up!

There is no way I would have my MIL in my delivery room & if my husband tried to insist, I’d tell him he is welcome to wait out in the waiting room with her if he likes 😉

I think she should stick to her decision. I would be dreadfully uncomfortable if I had my MIL was in the delivery room.

Her husband’s behaviour is outrageous. If this is a stickler, perhaps it’s just her and her husband in the room. However, based on his behaviour I’d nearly boot him out and just have her Mum.

The husband can’t decide for his wife who she may or may not want to have in the delivery room, he certainly can’t demand. The fact that he did this (even when he would give in now and apologize) could be very harming for their relationship.

Giving birth is quite personal. So every right to make the right choice for yourself.

Birth is such a personal thing. I think you should choose whoever you are comfortable with and be firm
About your choices. No way would I have wanted my MIL!

What a difficult situation! I think it’s very important that you have a serious conversation about boundaries with your partner! Personally I think this time should be between the two of you! It’s an extremely private time giving birth and it’s your body being exposed, therefore at the end of the day, it is your decision. Surely if you explain this to your partner/MIL they will gain some insight and understanding! Good luck!

I feel it is her choice. Personally I think it is a special time for a couple to experience together.
If for some reason a partner can’t be there then it should be her choice.