One of the hardest parenting journeys is that of the Stepmother, striking up a new relationship is hard enough, let alone getting involved with someone who already has children. But why do we always get a bad rap?
Sally Collins has put together Stepmother Love in a bid to break the cycle of the ‘wicked stepmother’. Stepmother Love tells the stories of ten women who have chosen to take on the challenge of making a positive contribution to the lives of their stepchildren.
I had the opportunity to ask the author of Stepmother Love, Sally Collins, a few questions:
I wrote stepmother love because I was a stepmum wanting to hear real life stories about other stepmothers and find what had worked for them in building their new family.
I struggled to find a book on the topic that was told in the stepmother’s voice so I decided to take on the task and set about meeting with many different stepmothers to hear their stories.
Once I started it became clear to me that there are many stories out there that needed to be told.
2. How long do you feel it took to gain your stepdaughters love and respect?
I know I’m not alone is saying it takes time to build relationships between stepchildren and step-parents and this is something that can’t be forced or rushed. I can think of lots of special times where I became aware that we were becoming closer. They were times like when our first child Georgia was born so a new baby sister for them. Also their special occasions are important for this process too like special birthdays and graduations.
3. Have you ever had a ‘wicked stepmother’ moment?
Other than not letting them go to the ball until they have mopped all the floors, I can’t really recall too many. Oh there was that slightly bitter apple too…
4. Do you feel that people automatically jump to conclusions when you say you are a stepmother? How do you overcome that?
People can react in a very negative manner to the term stepmother and I include myself in that too in the early days.
I am used to the term now and think its important that we feel we can discuss families in all the shapes and sizes that they come in. If the conclusions that people jump to are that I am evil or mean I would hope spending time with our family would fix this.
5. What do you think is the number one thing to do to make the step relationship positive?
The number one thing has to be to make a conscious decision that you will do everything you can to make these relationships work. It requires work from everyone however if the stepmum is doing everything she can to have great relationships then there is almost nothing more she can do – the rest is up to the father and kids as to how they support or don’t support her.
6. Tell us where we can buy Stepmother Love?
Stepmother is available through all book stores and on my website www.stepmotherlove.com
Thanks Sally, I am sure this book will help many Stepmothers and stepmothers to be!
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