I can see why she was upset, but she should have something at the time

My friend got engaged the day after my wedding, and I never thought anything of it, i was so.happy for her so maybe it’s a tad over reactive?

Yeah, I think she is over reacting a bit. 6 weeks isn’t that close to her wedding. I know someone that was getting married, her second time and her adult daughter got proposed to on her mum’s wedding day. It didn’t disrupt anything or ruin the day.

Definatley over reacting. It’s not like it happened on her actual wedding day! I don’t see how her sister getting engaged gets in the way of the wedding.

It’s meant to be a ahppy time getting married though im sure it’s upsetting a little

I really find it hard to see how an announcement could overshadow an actual wedding 6 weeks later. If it was a week before, or on the day, I’d have a lot more sympathy.

really think the sister’s partner could have been a little more considerate of when he proposed! – to let it ruin your wedding day plans etc is a little bit silly but totally understandable.

Hope they both can move on and remain sisters who knows they might need each other one day!

That could be excited for one another and share their joy me thinks ????

I can see both sides to this but they should have discussed the issue before raising it publicly

I understand how she feels because my half sister ruined my day although not in the same way. She was invited to the wedding but said she couldn’t come. She then had the police ring me at the reception and said she had been beaten by her husband. We had to leave still in our wedding clothes to pick her up and found out she’d thrown a hot casserole over her husband to get him angry. Worse than that, once she had ruined our night she asked us to drop her back at her house. Was never able to forgive her for that but we forgave her husband.

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  Sorry you had to go through this !

She should be happy for her sister.

Really?! Seems a bit petty to me. The bride will have her time to shine on her wedding day, she will have everyone’s full attention. They won’t be commenting on the sisters engagement on the day of the other sisters wedding. And who really cares? Over reaction much!

Sounds like theres more too the story, weddings can be stressful especially the last few weeks and you find there are always family/friends that don’t end up helping with stuff. People are allowed to be happy too

I think “her” mind set is the selfish one. Not so much the sister

I think communication is very important. if they had spoken to each other and then decided what to do.. it would have been different. but whats gone is gone now…don’t stress about it.

I think its therapeutic putting your thoughts in a journal but was it really necessary to broadcast your personal business on radio. It’s a family matter.

So move on…

There may be more going on here than we understand. I have family that have ruined every major event in my life – engagement, wedding, vow renewal, birth announcement, birth and so on. So I totally understand where this bride is coming from. Sometimes there are family members or people in your life who can’t cope not being the centre of attention and have to put themselves there. Based on my experience, I feel like this may not be the first time something like this has happened. I do wish her all the best though. Don’t let anyone dim your shine.

I wonder what the relationship between her and her sister is like now she has exposed the letter.

Dont understand why she is even upset- she should be happy for her sister.