Bride Requests Fee From Guests To Secure A Place At Her Wedding

This demanding bride forced guests to cough up hundreds to secure their spot at her wedding.

We all know that weddings can be an expensive day out – by the time you organise an outfit, buy a gift and sort out hair and makeup, you can be looking at a significant amount of money. One bride has given her guests another expense to add to their list, including her bank details with her wedding invite requesting that guests pay a sum of money to secure a their place at the wedding.

Completely Unexpected

The groom’s sister posted to popular forum Netmums to share her disbelief at receiving the unusual request. “So my sister-in-law announced that her wedding (this summer) was going to be a weekend-long affair a couple of hours away from where we live. Invitations were sent out and my husband and I were a little shocked to see that alongside the RSVP info was bank details to pay 180 pounds to secure our place at the wedding!” The bride’s mother-in-law had already offered to cover the cost of the wedding, which included the accommodation at the venue, so many guests were left wondering what the additional money was for…

Just Bad Manners

Commenters on the post were quick to reassure the bride’s sister-in-law that she wasn’t being unreasonable to question the additional cost. “If it’s not for accomodation, then I’d ask what it’s for,” said one forum user. “If it’s for other wedding costs then I wouldn’t pay it as it’s just outrageously rude.” “That’s the tackiest thing I’ve ever heard,” said another.

We’re not sure about this one – while giving cash as a wedding gift is becoming more and more common, requesting that your guests hand over a specific amount of money seems a bit forward. Hopefully the bride can sort out the situation or she may have fewer guests turning up than she thought!

Would you pay to attend a friend’s wedding? Let us know in the comments!

48 Comments

- - mom290396 said
  - 03 Feb 2020
    11:24 pm
People need to live within their means! I would never pay for the “pleasure” of attending a wedding.
And if the mother in law offered to pay, then there is really no reason to be charging
- Ellen replied
  
  05 Feb 2020 , 8:50 am
  I agree
- - BellaB said
  - 03 Feb 2020
    8:27 pm
That’s really rude, and I’d probably find a reason not to go.

- - Petal53 said
  - 03 Feb 2020
    8:15 pm
I would flatly refuse to go. No way would I be funding someone else’s wedding.

- - Amanda Holland said
  - 03 Feb 2020
    8:01 pm
No sorryxi wouldn’t go. If we have to travel a fair distance to a wedding I’m not paying an additional amount just to attend a wedding

- - mom81879 said
  - 17 May 2019
    6:15 pm
Bit rude to be requesting money from guests with no explanation as to why or what it’s for. The last wedding I went to, we had to pay for our meal, but tgat was it and it was explained

- - serotonin said
  - 03 Apr 2019
    3:32 pm
Never heard of such a thing. It already costs people to travel and/or pay accommodation to go to a wedding. I wouldn’t pay that much, which is a lot in Aussie dollars, for someone else to make profit from their own wedding.

- - mom245659 said
  - 31 Mar 2019
    8:02 pm
No, I just wouldn’t go. She’s a normal person, not famous not raising money for charity either. She will definitely find out the hard way that she is full of herself.

- - Fiona M said
  - 28 Mar 2019
    10:49 pm
Definitely rude to be asking for money in such a way!

- - LuckyMum said
  - 23 Mar 2019
    7:25 pm
Bad form. If that’s the type of wedding you want , pay for it ! If you can’t afford it don’t do it !

- - mom206279 said
  - 15 Mar 2019
    2:39 pm
She’ll work it out when only 9 people show up to her wedding and her mother paid for them all.

- - MrsA said
  - 11 Mar 2019
    1:37 pm
I wouldn’t go. We can’t afford to pay ridiculous amounts of money to attend someone else’s wedding. I don’t like being expected to give money either.

- - Blossom said
  - 04 Mar 2019
    11:05 pm
A lot of people would make other arrangements regarding accommodation. Guests are probably paying for the reception as well. Most wouldn’t be able to afford to go.
It is bad enough when a couple accept an invitation to a wedding then decide not to go because they want to have something installed in their house. I didn’t go to one once as I was really ill with a virus that was going around. I had a very high temperature but felt really cold and was vomitting which started only hours from the wedding. I had to have an after hours doctor in and at one stage it looked like I may have to go to hospital for an iv fluids.

- - MisChip said
  - 21 Feb 2019
    11:03 pm
I wouldn’t go!

- - mom93821 said
  - 16 Feb 2019
    10:58 am
Well…I would not go.

- - rovermum said
  - 13 Feb 2019
    9:28 am
I’m sorry, I’m so over these outrageous requests for weddings. I wouldn’t attend. I would come up with some great excuse of why I couldn’t go – like watching the paint dry!

- - sars_angelchik said
  - 12 Feb 2019
    1:32 pm
Talk about bridzilla! I wouldn’t go!

- - tessie said
  - 12 Feb 2019
    11:31 am
I certainly wouldn’t pay to attend someone’s wedding unless it was for my accommodation and I’d pay that to the company not to her personal account. If the MIL is paying for accommodation I can only think she wants the money to pay for her wedding. If she doesn’t have the money she should tone down the wedding to save money. I’d be insulted if I was asked to give her money and a specific amount is just too crude.

- - littlehandsofmine said
  - 12 Feb 2019
    7:34 am
That’s very rude, it’s your wedding, pay for it yourself.

- - mom101628 said
  - 11 Feb 2019
    10:25 pm
What a great way to not have people at your wedding – why not just elope and save all the angst. Should someone do that to me, I wouldn’t be going.

- - rnash02 said
  - 10 Feb 2019
    6:22 am
I’d question where the money was going, unfortunately I wouldn’t pay to attend a friends wedding.