I hear you. My husband was the same. Not once did he get up to any of our children at night. I was lucky enough to be a stay at home Mum so I didnt mind when I knew he had to work the next day but even in the weekends he wouldnt help or after work while i was trying to get his dinner ready, etc Over three bubs I can count the number of nappies he changed on one hand. I always said I felt like a single Mum but without the worry of where the money was coming from.

I think they should sit down and discuss the issue.

What a awesone job he is performing. He just said what he was thinking. Maybe his wife should rethink her attitude to child caring. x

Such a challenging position to be in.
Maybe poorly worded, but the reality of exhaustion will often result in a much more direct comment.

I can only think that if this text was written by the mother, with the same complaints, everyone would be blaming her, saying things like “man is just like that”, that she would have to accept that he didn’t Help with the tasks with the baby, that motherhood belongs to the mother… But as the report speaks of the father, everyone feels sorry for him.
It’s 2022 and sexism still screams.

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  • • mom474537 replied
    • 18 Oct 2022 , 7:35 am

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  Really though? I disagree. I’ve seen women post things like this and every other woman is in there backing her up and telling her to leave his a$$ and find better.

Good on you Dad, for stepping up and speaking out. You have a small person depending on you right now and I can understand how exhausted you must be. Personally, I would turn the phone off and ignore the incoming rants. You are caring for your Son, you stayed. You are going to be his rock through life. Don’t ever feel bad about asking for help, that is all I can see that you have done. You have been honest with your wife and she has left, before allo9her to return to the home, there would need to be some serious discussions had around her behaviour. You are a single Dad and you are doing an amazing job with your Son. Be proud of that.

You’re doing a great job, your little boy needs you more than ever right now. Hopefully your wife snaps out of it and comes home and pulls her head out of her butt and helps more. As for the in-laws, they should help support you during this time.

Love how the parents are taking the side of their daughter, who literally up and left her son/their grandson, and bagging out the dad for calling her on her appalling behaviour! Parenting is very rarely 50/50, but it shouldn’t be one does all whilst the other reaps the benefits. I hope she learns to love and CARE for her baby. Otherwise, at least dad knows he can do it alone!
And I’m glad the dad grew to love his baby. How sad that he suggested abortion because he didn’t feel ready to be a dad

She needs to wake up!!! Sounds like she has the dream husband and father for her child and it’s still not enough … while he may not have exactly meant what he said to her I can understand his frustration and disappointment with her – I think I’d feel the same way he does!! Hopefully she pulls her big girl socks up and starts being the mother the baby needs and the supportive wife to this awesome guy before he finds it in someone else’s arms.

Nothing is balanced in this situation. Your wife is selfish and is a horrible mother for asking you to tak your son out of the room because he was crying. Parenting is a two way street, especially if you are both working from home. It would be interesting aside of all the effort you put in for your son as a dad, what effort does your wife put in to helping around the house. Or are you doing that as well? Your wife needs to wake up to herself. Having a baby is not all play and coos, it\’s hard work, feeds, nappy changes and other care factors. I hope she realises that she is wrong and comes to her senses soon for the sake of your son and the benefit of yours and her relationship. I wish you all the best and hope there is reconciliation and sensibility shown in this scenario, Congratulations on the birth of your son.

While he should not have said what he did to his wife I can understand why he did. It sounds like it is time for her to step and do a bit more.
The best way for them to move forward might be through some counselling.

Although perhaps tempting, I would not leave your child at her and your inlaws house for a rest and to see how she goes. It sounds terrible I know but kids are often used as pawns. I see the worst in people at work. If your wife decides not to return, or to give your child back she is well within her rights. Don’t let your bub our of your sight

How exhausting for both sides.

That’s so unfair my stepson is in the EXACT position she needs to wake up to herself and help look after the child she brought into the world as far as I’m concerned your doing all you can and will continue but talk to her and get her to see reason hopefully other wise he will make the best single dad but I hope it works out for you all it’s a hard situation but the child should come first always

I feel for him. It takes tow to help and maybe it could’ve been said in a better way but emotions and tiredness does come into play

I dont think he’s the asshole for calling her out. If it was flipped the woman wouldn’t be the asshole for calling the man out.

Good on dad for being a real father. No you shouldn’t have called her a horrible mother but she does need to step up and act like one.

If she’s not suffering from PND then she’s just being lazy. You need to let her parents know what she’s like when it comes to caring for your son too. I can’t believe they weren’t angry with her for leaving your baby behind. Your son deserves to be loved by both of you so I hope you are able to resolve the situation soon

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  • • mom160270 replied
    • 30 Aug 2022 , 8:14 pm

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  I agree with your comment. Well said.

I love the idea of you dropping the baby off for a couple of days so you can get some sleep and a rest. It is indeed a very unusual situation and I’m not sure how you fix it.

Take the five-month old over to your wife and in-laws and leave him there. Go and take a few days off. Your in-laws might then side with you, or your wife might be thankful for what you had done. Either way, if you don’t sort this out now, you aren’t going to have much of a marriage down the track.