Its always good to forgive even the little things

great read thanks for sharing

My brother in law has not had anything to do with us for many years. The last thing he said to me was nasty . I have forgiven him , this year he came for Christmas and it was wonderful

I have a lot of trouble letting go of things and it has been detrimental to my physical and mental well being. This article has inspired me to start forgiving and move on. Thanks for sharing.

Wow thank you for all your comments ladies. The word forgiveness is one we all have a different perception on. Its all about finding your own happiness and peace from letting go. Why let something negative rent free space in your mind. Embrace the freedom and change from letting it go so the space can we filled with goodness x

Until a few, about 10 years ago, I never held a grudge, and forgave everyone for everything I thought they hurt me with. One day after waking up in the secure ward, I had lost that gift. Now, I am still unable to let go, and I see it, I feel it, I see the pain and hurt in everyones eyes, and I can not let it go. Maybe as Xmas gift, it is not that I will forgive anyone, but to again learn to forgive. It will be a start I look forward to.

I wish my 19yr son would forgive me. He went to live with his grandpa in April citing that I was interfering, stopping him for being independent & that he couldn’t handle the noise from his 13yr sister. Unfortunately, he doesn’t realise that as a parent with a child who has a Brain Injury, Cognitive impairment & Aspergers from 8 brain surgeries since he was found to have an inoperable tumour when he was 5 it’s not easy for us either. Even children who are healthy &”normal” don’t come with instruction manuals for each pause of their growing up. I wish he would understand this & forgive me if I’ve wrapped him in cotton wool but, countless nights nursing him may have something to do with it. He won’t even give me an answer as to whether he’ll be spending Christmas with us (which will be stressful enough as my in laws will be at our home). I love you very, very much Matt & want you to understand that everyone makes mistakes & it’s all part of our journey through life BUT people learn from this & it’s easier to forgive them & give them a 2nd chance than cause more heartache, tears & guilt.

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  • • mom160421 replied
    • 11 Jan 2016 , 11:14 am

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  I feel for you. He is a teenager and probably just needs some space to sort things out about his own life. I wouldn’t worry too much about the distance between you at this stage. Just keep in touch with him and let him know you’re thinking about him and there for him when he needs you. Hopefully, when he’s ready, he will reach out to you.

Forgiving is not condoning others behaviour, it’s about not occupying our headspace and hurting us anymore. I have forgiven others for horrendous deeds because I no long choose to be a victim and keep suffering. I also forgive myself as I too have hurt myself and others. Life is better as I no longer hold onto stuff. I have also cleared much of the hurters out of my life, much happier

I don’t know if forgiveness is possible in every circumstance, but based on what I’ve experienced I have been able to forgive those who have hurt me – I have been able to reach a point where I wish them well, even though I no longer want them in my life.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 20 Dec 2015 , 7:13 am

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  You have managed to put into words exactly what I was thinking. Articulate and thoughtful and realistic comments.

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    • • mom160421 replied
      • 11 Jan 2016 , 11:18 am

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    Thank you MoM93821.

yes forgiveness really is a gift for 2 people isn’t it.

Forgiveness can sometimes be hard but its worth it.

I should forgive some people for the pain they brought into my life, but it’s absolutely not easy. Actually I don’t think I’m ready for that yet.

Thanks for this article which fits in with Christmas.

I think forgiveness must start with yourself first so that ultimate goal is to have peace within yourself. Once you do that life becomes much easier . Peace be with you we say at mass.

Glad you have found your happy place!! Enjoy it.

Lke iu