After-school restraint collapse means your kid is an angel at school or daycare but a hot mess at home.

Has anyone experienced after-school restraint collapse when picking up kids at school?
I am experiencing this with my daughter, sometimes. I have never thought it would be real.
Pls let me know your thoughts.

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  • Wow, the different and new terminology these days. Never had this when my kids were little

  • My daughter has this hugely every single day from child care. It’s really hard and would love some ideas to help too

  • Absolutely this is real. I notice it more with neurodivergent children (and adults)

  • I’ve not experienced it, but have heard of it before/

  • We all need to unwind, so it’s logical our kids need that too

  • We always have down time for every body when home, before the afternoon and evening routines start. Everyone needs some healthy unwind time.

  • i didnt heard this word. but this behaviour i noticed in my kids too

  • Experienced children needing unwind time and letting everything out from a long day at school.

  • 1000% our kids after childcare.

  • I think it’s quite logical kids try their best to behave well at school and then go home and can let go and be more their tired self.
    I always found it important they can relax, lower expectations, have something to eat so they’re not hangry and can run around in a park or at home.

  • I’ve never heard it termed like this but I think it is pretty common. Angels at school then let loose at home. It’s a good sign lol as it means they do actually understand how to behave but a long day does them in.

  • I have found my daughter tends to get my tired and moody on her 3 day week of school kindy. It’s a big transition for them and they are trying to be on there best behaviour at school and they get home, feel safe and sometimes explode there emotions on us.

  • Yes, my twins are in prep and we’re finding towards the end of this term they are experiencing this. I’ve been giving them a healthy snack when they get home – fruit, water, toast. I allow them some quiet time just to decompress for the day and we stick to a pretty standard routine where we can. I try to have dinner, bath and bed time around the same time each night. I also make sure we eat as a family so they can talk about their day o help them process their emotions. Good luck, I’m hoping that it’s exhaustion towards the end of the year and will improve over the school holidays!

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