I agree that kids crying is pretty normal. The educator acted badly, but I also agree that it’s a bit of a question whether it’s a one off or a everyday way of interacting with the kids. I do know a parent who pulled her kid after she found educators weren’t offering him any comfort when he cried. I agreed with her.

It sounds like you were just trying to bring a balanced perspective, and honestly, I agree—while the staff member’s words weren’t great, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a bad educator or that the whole childcare is terrible. Kids crying at drop-off is super normal, and while it’s important for staff to be kind and supportive, they’re also human and have tough days. You weren’t being heartless, just realistic. It’s good that a complaint was made so it can be addressed, but tracking down the parent feels like overstepping.

I think perhaps everyone reacts in a different way.
I agree that to say you are going to remove your child because of it seems like a gross over reaction. Also wanting to get in touch with the boys Mum again seems an over reaction and as if she is just out to cause trouble.

I don’t think you are wrong, or bad, I just think you had an opinion on the subject and said it. I don’t think I would be as game as you to answer a poster on Facebook if I disagreed with their views. I don’t use social media, and never want to, because I have heard so many comments about being taken to task when someone has done it. We all have our own opinions and ways of rearing our child and rather than complain on Facebook, if it were me, I would just do what I thought best and leave it up to the authorities. Most institutions that are not as good as another in the same business seem to be known about quite quickly and if I were worried I would then change where my child went. But please stop worrying about the reaction to your post.

No you’re definitely not wrong. Myself, I think this has been blown out of proportion. How do we know the childcare person said that passively aggressive or not. We weren’t there. Plus, I think a lot of mothers and I’ll probably get into trouble for this, are like helicopter mothers. They hover around not doing anything constructive and don’t let their children experience natural life or behaviour. How do we know that what she says is true? This is one side of the story. Children often cry and it does set the other kids off and I really don’t think the worker was being mean. Just practical. Some people thrive on drama. If she was so worried about it why didn’t she step in there and then instead of complaining to the centre? Just more drama.

No, you are not a bad person for having an opinion. People tend to forget that others have feelings when they are responding to comments on posts. I think you had some valid points; children often do cry when dropped off at daycare and without actually hearing the worker myself I would be hesitant to make judgement. It may not have been the best response to a crying child but the “tone” in which it was said is also important and “passive aggressive” could be misinterpreted.

I think the educator’s response on the crying child was not okay indeed. I don’t think you’re not a bad person for contacting the director of the childcare and making a complaint about the educator. Since the educator didn’t respond to your own child, it makes the situation a bit more complex and it is probably not appropriate to talk directly to the educator. I would certainly watch/observe this educator how she treats your own child.

I tend to agree that it’s up to the childcare Director to contact the parents, but what if they don’t? The comment sounds like time has been insinuated and yes Peri much all myths cry at some point at daycare and yes it tends to set any other image kids off… to me this sounds like a storm in a teacup… but if it was something more severe? I would want to know! If I was the other parent, I would want a guarantee from the Centre Manager that they’ll contact the parents given its in FB!

Good on you for commenting as their are so many people out there that will comment very nasty things back at you. I have heard feedback that some daycares have had issues like this but i also know many daycares that are just wonderful and so good for kids. I think it every child is different. My daughter went through many different emotions at different times when at Daycare and sometimes it had nothing to do with the daycare it was just that she wanted to be with me and sometimes another kids was being mean to her. It is important to know all the facts before judging.

I’m in agreeance with you. It can taken out of context completely when we weren’t there to witness the tone The woman complaining may well be correct but she may also be an over the top parent. We will never know because we weren’t there. It has been reported and dealt with.

Firstly, you’re game for commenting on a Facebook thread hahah. I could never, it gets so ferocious. But I lean towards your thoughts and feelings here. If the childcare worker was being outright mean it would be cause for concern, but kids cry when they don’t get what they want (ie having parents around). Could they have been kinder? For sure. But I wouldn’t take this one moment to assume they are a terrible person around kids.