My eldest daughter is 8 (going on 13!) and I have no idea at what stage I should be talking to her about certain topics (eg. getting her period). Do I have a straight up conversation or are there specifics books I could use as a reference?

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  • We had the first talk when my daughter was in Kindy and added more details over the years

  • We inadvertently had the conversation when she was about 5 (because her older brother attended sex education classes at school and decided to share some very explicit details with his siblings). But we have continued to have that conversation and build on it as she gets older, and asks more questions.

  • Just realised I’ve already answered this question :)

  • I had a talk with my daughter when she was in Year 5 (10 years old). I talked about the basics and then asked her if she had any questions, and for her to feel free to ask me any questions anytime.

  • I was very lucky as the school has PD ( Personal Development ) classes and the teachers took care of that. These days all schools I think have this subject which is compulsory for children Still she asked some questions and just gave her basic answers . When she had her first period , she was already aware of her body and said ” mum , I think I got my periods ” and she was about 13 at the time . I would ring up the school and just ask them if they have PD available so that you are aware anyway .

  • There are books you can use to help you, check your local library. I wouldn’t worry too much if she isn’t asking any questions

  • My daughter is 9. We had the talk when she was 7. She had older sisters and wanted to know what pads were for. I agree that Libragirl is rhe place to go for info and samples.

  • I have a 9 year old girl & was thinking the same question, thanks for asking.

  • Libra girl is excellent! There are lots of books that simply explain things and then maybe from there questions may form that she comes and asks you

  • My niece is 8 and my sister said the school encouraged these discussion and she had a book to help discuss it. Some girls hit puberty at 8, which is scary but scarier if they aren’t prepared

  • there are lots of books you could borrow from the library. Also school will do a bit of education here but good idea to have general honest chat about it so if she does get it early she is not shocked.

  • I’m not sure about books, I like the idea of libra girl. It has a lot of information written For the child. I got my period early (when I was 10 ) so introducing her at 8 is probably a good idea.

  • yes i am sure that there are books out there, ebay it.

    Go to the website “libra girl” and there you will be able to get a free pack which will come in handy now. It has samples of pads and tampons plus info that will help you to explain the process with your daughter. It comes in a cute pencil case and you might get a pen depending on availability. Look for the “resources for parents’ link or something along those lines.

  • Personally when I was young my mum handed me a book and didn’t answer any questions, so when I noticed last year my 8 year old had fat deposits around her hips and had started developing a little bit in the breast region I realised it was time. I knew I did not want to just hand her a book. So I sat down and said we need to have a special mummy daughter talk, I proceeded to advise her what would happen to her body (no need to include any sex references yet) and then let her fire away with the questions. Then together we researched a book, applied online for the free libra school kit (found here http://www.lovelibra.com.au/parents-teachers/libra-school-resource-kit/) which we put in her school bag when it came and bought this book http://www.secretgb.com/. Ella feels scared of what will happen but aware, on top of that she feels at ease knowing she can ask me for a mummy daughter chat whenever she needs. I hope this helps, it is really hard, but I looked online for great ways to start the conversation (which I just started with, you are growing up, and I have noticed you are now ready to have this chat, girls go through a few things when they grow up, I need to let you know).

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