I have 2 small g/children and don’t know if they have any concept of a loved one passing away and never to return.The know about going on holidays but not death

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  • Yeah, I wasn’t great at this either. It’s such a difficult subject and I think a lot of people don’t get it right

  • I have a 3 year old, and we have lost a few people in our lives, going back to when she was 2. I guess all i suggest is to try and get them to appreciate those in their lives on a daily basis, that we may only have today.

  • Depends on the child but if someone passes away explain what happened and then deal with the questions as they come up.

  • Think it’s good to explain the situation to the child if they have the aptitude for it cos if they don’t it can be more confusing for them. I myself have sad moments where I’ve explained death to my daughter who is nearly three and she understands what happens and we’ve tried to make it a very positive experience. so for example my husband’s grandmother passed away last year on the same day that my first born son had passed away and we explained to my daughter that that grandma wasn’t well and her heart stop beating and went to sleep. And i said when that happens that’s cold dying and there’s nothing wrong with that. This is what happened sometimes when people are old and sick. As she understood that her brother had passed away as well she blatantly said to me so grandma is in heaven with God and my brother. And in response to that I said yes, yes she is. And my daughter said that’s good.

  • Such a hard one. It all basically comes down to the individual child and what you think they can cope knowing. And also depends on how much you want to share with them.

  • In all honesty, kids know a lot more than we think. 2 months ago, we lost my dear Dad (56 years young) and I was so worried about telling our4 year old. She knew before we could even get the words out. She is very upset but the fact that we can talk about Poppy and all of his favourite things and heaven, makes it easier.

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