It’s normal to change behaviour after kids, but that behaviour is not normal. Typically they stop that behaviour to help care for your kids

I hope that you were able to get through to him

I feel sad reading your question – my friend’s husband basically reverted to his adolescence when their daughter was born and they divorced. I hope it worked out for you. There is a lot of support with counselling, family counselling, beyond blue, etc. He might have been feeling excluded. I know a lot of men feel helpless when the baby comes as they don’t know what to do

hows everything going?
hope you are ok by now

How did it all go??

It can be completely normal for men that are scared or don’t know what to do. Dad’s don’t generally wake up to crying babes either, our wonderful Mummy hormones make sure we do though!!
As your son gets older and starts to engage your hubby may come around and be involved. Until then the babies are sleeping, feeding, pooing, weeing and only mothers smell will calm them, some men will feel helpless during this phase (even though they aren’t!).
Men can also get baby blues and some also have trouble “bonding” with their babies. I would imagine that this would play havoc with them, could you imagine not bonding with your child but knowing and hoping that you would? I reckon I’d be a whole lot of angry!
Big hugs, you are doing a great job. Try and get him to open up, there may be something deep seeded going on.

Seems weird … leave if you are not happy and you are going unheard.

He may be adjusting to being a father still. I don’t think it is a good reason though.

i wouldn’t know what to do to be honest.. i would be devastated

there are some good comments here

maybe have a talk to him

He may not be coping with the enormous responsibility of financial and emotional commitments that come with being a parent. Does he have any family members that you can talk to who may be able to talk to him.

That’s horrible! you should talk to him first. Maybe there is an underlying reason…Anxious or fear of the unknown in the dad?

i would speak to your maternal child health nurse. they can put you in contact with a professional who can help.

It definitely isn’t normal. I hope he comes around and begins to get a bit more involved.

its not normal behaviour at all! I hope it all works out for you all

Hope you found the advice you were looking for.

its just your husband maybe adapting to the change? you are giving all your attention to bub? try and have some quality time together when bub is sleeping

Most men struggle with a newborn entering our lives. They are just like another child that you cared for before for actual child came into the home. Men in general love the the attention that is shown / given to them and when the baby arrives they somewhat feel like 2nd best in the home. Unfortunately us mums don’t have a choice to drink, go out play golf, etc “we” must take care of that little being that is 100% totally dependent on us. Men struggle with the focus being more on the child as it’s no longer just them anymore.

It can also be difficult to get them involved when you are the breastfeeding person. Is he scared of the baby or maybe jealous as you are not paying him as much attention and maybe its not how he thought it would be? His behaviour is not the norm so talking to him is a good start but it will be difficult to help him if he doesn’t open up to you. Good luck xx