I think this is a hard question and really depends on how you are both feeling and if you feel you get any quality time together and if you both feel you need it. Date nights are a great way to get out of the house kid free and spend some quality time together doing something that doesn’t involve the kids because as you said when the kids leave home, it is important you still have a connection. Maybe trial one or two and see how you both feel?

Personally I think there is no should or shouldn’t. In the beginning of our marriage we most certainly went on date nights. Since many years we live in a country where we have no family around us (they’re all in Europe). Like yourselves, we have become and are family focused and with kids with additional needs, one on one time with my husband has become hard to organise

If you’re able to spend some time kid free I would say go for it! My husband and I live a few hours from family so when we catch up everyone wants to see each other. It isn’t a ‘look after the kids’ thing. We mainly spend time together in the evenings once the kids are asleep. Maybe in a few years time when the kids are older we can have an away from the house outing together

It’s great that you do everything together as a family but you should be making time for yourself and your husband. You get bogged down in everyday things and time flies by and sometimes you don’t have the energy but you should have a date night at least once a month. You want to keep your marriage strong. Plus, it’s nice to get away for a night out with just the two of you. Even if you don’t go out for dinner, you could go for a walk together alone or stroll along a beach or just sit and talk or do anything. But as far as I’m concerned you need to keep the intimacy going beyond the kids. Like you stated they’ll grow up and be gone and you and your husband will be strangers because you spent every minute with your children. You need your own identity beyond your kids. So yes, do date nights.