My twins turn 3 in July and they don’t attend daycare or preschool as I simply can’t afford it. When do you get time for you, the only time I seem to get is a hot shower or bubble bath when they go to bed or when they are asleep I can relax and watch a movie. How do you find time for yourself?

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  • It is difficult to get time to yourself when the children are little, but it does get better over the years.

  • Nope. Kids have left home, now its hubby that doesn’t leave me alone! Still the biggest kid in the family

  • You need to make time for yourself.
    Ask Dad or a family member to watch them for a few hours once a week so you can go catch up with friends, see a movie, go out for lunch, go to the salon, anything that might interest you.
    It’s important you take some time out for yourself as well so you don’t wear yourself out.
    You need a break too :)

  • Can you ask a family member (mum sister etc) to take them for one afternoon a week? Otherwise if you are part of a mums group or know a friend with a child of similar age in the same boat as you you could organise play dates (so you take her kid once a week for a few hours and the following week she takes your kids fora play date with her kid for a few hours?)

  • I’m in a similar situation. Hubby leaves for work at 6 am and sometimes isn’t home until after the kids are in bed. And he studies almost full time when he’s not working. We also have no friends or family in the area to help out.
    I’m lucky in that both my kids have an afternoon sleep so if i manage to get the housework done (or not bother) that’s my lunch break. I also do the grocery shopping when the kids are in bed (hubby is home) and use that as some me time. Other than that I’ve just come to the conclusion that having kids and me time don’t go together!

  • I guess the good part about twins is they can play with each other? Like most responses my me time is my daughter’s sleep time, she goes to daycare but only when I’m at work

  • I would kill for a bubble bath! haha

  • I am pretty much the same as you. My partner isn’t much help plus my lo prefers me all the time. The only time I get to myself is when she is sleeping. She is only in day care when I work so yeah. Me time is hard to come by. I hope you find some soon!

  • I have a 1 year and and a 4 year old. If I am desperate for a break, and when the 1 year old is napping, I will set the 4 year old with television or more often audio stories where she turns the page herself. I prefer the latter as television causes too many issues when switching it off and doesn’t stimulate her like books.

  • I have one 2.5 year old and the only me time is when she is asleep. No idea how you did it with twins. You are doing a great job

  • I found a mothers group that arranges for some older ladies to mind the kids in one room while we have a cuppa in another. That helps.

  • im a single mum :(

  • I get too much free time.
    My son is between his father and I (50-50), so I get 4 nights of mumma alone time. I miss him when he’s with his father

  • Perhaps at the weekend your partner or a friend could mind them for an hour or two to give you bit of a break. It is tough but it will get better as they get older. Also is there a friend who you can share once a week with. so you have her child one afternoon or morning a week and she reciprocates so you both get half a day to your self to do something on your own? I did this for a while and it was great.

  • Good question. Childcare was always my escape, but you don’t have that option. Do you have family or friends nearby that could have the kids for a couple of hours? Ones that you trust. Or what about the dad? Could he maybe step up and contribute done way? I hope you find something, being a mum is very rewarding, but also draining. We all need ‘me’ time

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