We are going to wedding where it is the second wedding for the bride and groom. As they are already set up they have asked for money or gift vouchers. My husband does not feel right doing this and thinks we should give them a gift. Does anyone have any ideas for a present?

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  • A personalised gift could be nice. I feel strange giving money to these type of occasions as I feel no dollar value would be enough.

  • That would be so hard to find something they don’t already have, being a 2nd wedding and all. They’ve asked for money so they can buy what they need, maybe even help pay fir a honeymoon. I think it’s a good idea

  • There are some great ideas for gifts here thanks

  • If you aren’t comfortable giving money or a voucher what about paying for a nice meal in a nice hotel, or a spa voucher?

  • Photo Frames or photo albums are always a well received wedding gift.

  • Something that is really handy when entertaining, platter, cheese board and knife, salad bowl, drink dispenser
    Or just a nice frame or photo album with a gift card

  • I don’t like the idea of people asking for money so I’d go with a gift too. Maybe a hamper with nicely chosen food products.

  • It seems to be the thing lately for marrying couples to request money or gift vouchers. Was just discussing this with my daughter the other day as she has had several weddings to go to for couples who have been living together for some time & have a well equipped home . Giving a gift voucher from a very specific place (eg Dusk,etc) means they can only use it at that place ,particularly if you are having trouble deciding what to give them instead of cash .

    I object to couples being very specific about what they want as wedding presents . In days past there use to be a wedding gift register that you could chose something from so that one didn’t receive several toasters etc .
    Maybe you could subtly ask the bride what she would like for a gift if she was being given one .

  • I agree with what others have said – even maybe talk to the bride and say if there something (even silly) that you really would like for the house and noone got you – some won’t agree to the money idea either and give them gifts – what about even something like a picnic basket with some fun baking things in there for them to make some treats at home or something else quirky we got that at our wedding and I honestly thought it was the best present.

  • It’s up to you what you give as a gift, if you don’t feel comfortable giving money or vouchers then buy a gift you think they like, you can never have enough great sheets or towel or even really good pillows

  • If you know what size bed they have you could get them a set of nice sheets or nice comforter set. My be a nice set of bath sheet towels with matching hand towels and face washers. A nice photo frame for them to put a wedding photo in.
    I was also raised that a gift is personal and money is not and I don’t I don’t do money or gift voucher’s either but it seems like it is becoming the done thing these days.
    I always do the photo frame if I am unsure about all other ideas as I get a good size one that is really pretty I usual find them in photo shops or specialty shops that do gifts and things like that.

  • I do not like the money and voucher idea, i know it is modern and the done thing now a days but I feel you are judged by how much or how little you spend. A picnic hamper is a nice gift and places like Peters of Kensington and the like have a great range and are very reasonable on price add a bottle of wine, a picnic blanket etc if you wish and you have one special gift.

  • One of those adventure vouchers red baloon or adrenalin

  • maybe a dinner voucher for them both :)

  • When i got married to my now husband we had both been married before to we asked for gift vouchers from the travel agent and thats how we paid for our honeymoon, maybe if your hubby doesnt like the idea of gift vouchers for a store maybe pay for a night in a hotel for them with a nice meal.

  • I don’t like voucher giving what about a lovely mr and mrs towel set for their bathroom, my mother in law did this for my husband and I as we had been together 13 yrs and 3 kids by the time we got married and was a lovely way of making it official and something we could use everyday and enjoy and remind us of our final commitment as a family.

  • They would ahve had a registery list if they wanted gifts so i would do as they ask

  • Was going to say the same as listed maybe scented melts with an electric burner and photo frames will also be an idea.

  • If your hubby doesn’t want to give them money then get them a gift card from somewhere they frequent often.

  • I don’t mind being rude, if you don’t like it don’t come to my wedding… I’ve paid my dues regarding the giving of wedding gifts or money myself, I’m not in it to make a profit I just don’t want 50 new wedding photo albums, or toasters or vases for flowers I never get, or vouchers for restaurants I could never use because we have children and taking them out in public is unfair on other diners… If they are your friends then you should give them something they are happy to receive and don’t disappoint them.

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