I dont think the principal should touch your childs hair at all and if he does I would go directly to the Education board.
Make an appointment to see the Principal and explain to him whats going on with your childs hair and see if you can reach an agreement that all parties are happy with.
Also make an appointment to see your GP and find out why he has this bald patch.

That’s a ridiculous thing for the deputy principal to say because he absolutely wouldn’t dare. I understand schools have policies on hair sometimes but maybe you need to go in and speak to them about this. He wouldn’t need to grow the whole head of hair long so maybe ask advice at the hairdressers on a style that will help.

I would assume that all schools have to agree to rules and processes and a code of conduct. It would be highly interesting to research and find out who does indeed oversee all schools in your areas or state or territory. Having a discussion armed with facts is always so important.

Move schools! This Principal is out of line, out of touch! Come on who has Buzz Cuts? These threats are out of line!!! Buzz cut vs short back and sides very different. Making your son feel uncomfortable and bullied is just not on. His entitled to a meeting with you with the Principal explain his hair situation and if a reasonable agreement is made good. But if there is no solution leave that toxic environment! Education is important and Teachers and Principals are suppose to create a safe and happy environment where you can talk, learn and thrive. This is not the case at this school. I would be walking out no running!

I find the comment of the deputy principal to your son that if he doesn’t have a buzz cut by the weekend that he will shave it off himself highly aggressive and inappropriate. Would he follow through with his threat I would certainly think this is a matter to report to the police

I would go straight to the principal and also demand to see policies and all documentation related to the code of dress for the school. Surely in this day and age this is not allowed and quite archaic. No one can touch a child and there are laws in place to protect children.

As has already been suggested below I would seek a meeting with the principal to explain your concerns. It might also be useful to check the school uniform policy for clarification on expectations.

That seems very extreme and unreasonable! I went to private school and they were pretty easy going as long as it was kept tidy. I could understand if he had a full afro, but it sounds like you are being very careful and tasteful and it’s a sensitive issue. I would personally try speaking with the principal and explaining the situation.

Private can be rigid in their rules indeed. I would look into what the school policy in regards to hair actually is and you agreed to.
I would certainly ask for a meeting with the principal and explain the reason why your son is growing his hair and how you encouraged this because he was bullied. School needs to address bullying behaviour, but they can’t when you don’t share about it.
In regards to the bald spot; I would make an appointment with the GP and possibly get a referral for a dermatologist as it can have different causes

Move him no one has the right to alter your looks these sort of things make the suicide rate increase

I’m so sorry to hear you are going through something so stressful. Firstly the way the teacher spoke about cutting your son’s hair himself is completely inappropriate and no one has the right to put their hands on your child or make them feel that way. Have you spoken to this teacher about your son’s hair? If you have and they are still insisting on a cut I would be taking it to the principal and discussing it with them. Schools need to work together with parents and hopefully once they understand the reasoning behind his hair style they will be more lenient and supportive. Good luck with it.

I’m sorry for your situation in this and I know private schools are really into rules but there’s no way they can touch your child like that. I’d be going to the principal and telling him of your son’s situation with his hair. If he still demands his hair being cut and demanding it be a buzz cut I’d be changing schools and I also would be reporting the principal to the Education board of ethics. This is such a minor issue to carry on the way this principal is carrying on about. But I do know they can’t lay their hands on your child or even their hair.

Your poor son! Sounds like you’re stuck between a rock and a hard place. While private schools have their rules this is a special circumstance but when other families see your child with an exemption they will be looking to obtain one too and then there are suddenly no rules anymore. I hope you can find something that works for you both with your son being put first.

Oh gosh im so sorry to hear your son has been going through it. As a mother, i cannot even imagine the sinking feeling you have when you send him to school, not knowing if he is being bullied or teased. It’s definitely the worst feeling when you dont feel like you have the support from school. If you dont feel the school is right for him any more, it may be worth considering moving him to another.

Firstly I want to say that I am so sorry to hear you are having to go through this and what your sons is experiencing with his hair loss. Have you spoken to a specialist who deals with hair growth? I am not sure what age you need to be for a consultation but could be worth considering. Have you also met with the principle to discuss the situation and see if you could obtain an exception for your son? Good luck