I’d like to preface, our two kids both have ASD and the youngest has a lot of other complexities.
They both have a “morning routine” that they need to complete. Chores are in there but mainly centred around them getting ready for school. The eldest has chores and hates them but I remind him that when he is older he will face to do everything in his own house and needs to learn the basics now. The youngest has no set chores because of his capacity. He dies however do things sporadically around the house. They both have to put their washed clothes away. And for bigger tasks, they get rewarded.. with timtams 😂
We find that this is working for us to motivate our two to be more helpful. As I said. It’s not fit everyone.
As a side note, we don’t allow screens in our house because they were basing EVERYTHING off games and US shows. We have a tv that they can watch but it’s 1 episode a day unless the parents are watching the golden girls, bewitched, or a quiz show.

Yeah this is such a tough one and everyone does it different! We didn’t and don’t pay our kids for what we consider ‘normal’ household help. We explain that we are family and we all contribute, sometimes you might not feel like it but it’s a commitment to our house and helping keep us running smoothly. We paid for everything our kids did and do. When it came to earning money and learning it’s value we would choose certain jobs that weren’t part of the everyday that might be considered as ‘extra’ like they might say is there anything we can do to earn money so I might say yes, wash the car or mow the lawn etc.
We also told our kids that when they went out with spending money if they didn’t spend all the money they could keep and save the change. We chose to do this because we didn’t want them going out with $20 and just spending it for the sake of spending. We felt that taught them to spend. We found most of the time our kids would come home with a lot of the money and would prefer to save it. It was also good for siblings who spent there money to see that they could have done the same and saved instead of spend. Again, you just have to find what works for your family.

Every household and every family have their own rules. We never paid our kids for doing daily chores (such as making your bed, tidy your bedroom, tidy up the toys, doing dishes, vacuuming, etc). We saw it just as developing life skills and responsibility and as part of daily life and it comes with being part of the family.. Once they’re adults these are things they will have to do them selves.

This is a hard one as this is has been around for many years. I even remember earning pocket money this way. I think it is a great way to teach them about money and how it is important to earn it so for me, giving pocket money is not an issue.

I think it’s fine to expect everyone to pick up after themselves and help the household function, but I also think it’s a great way to instill that earning comes from hard work to kids. Unless they are of working age there’s no other way to get pocket money. It can teach responsibility, reliability, consequences when they don’t follow through and don’t receive money, budgeting and saving.