I don’t think you sound snobby. You have a weird feeling about this mum, so listen to it. Just be busy all the time. It might not work all the time but it will get you out of it sometimes. This is life right? There are just some people that we don’t want to spend time with

Yup, you sure sounded snobby! How would you feel if other mums were trying to avoid play dates with your kid for whatever reason. Not nice thought is it

Unless you have any particular issue with the child or mum (eg bullying, thieving, mouthy etc) I don’t think you have a good reason to stop contact. If the play dates are in your home, it’s easy to monitor. If you notice distasteful behaviour, certainly stop, but until then being weird is not a good enough reason

Maybe a case of trusting your gut instinct? If you’re not comfortable with your child being around this child and the mother also makes you feel uncomfortable, I would say that’s a good enough reason to not encourage play dates. I feel a bit sad for the other child, too many children are ostracised for being ‘different’ or ‘weird’. But as a mum, it’s your choice, you’ll do what’s best for your son

Its always a tough one! Goodluck

This is a hard one, you can’t stop them being friends but you can stop them socialising out of school. It’s easy enough to make up excuses why he can’t attend. Otherwise the other option is to maybe have one more play date and see if you go an get to know them a bit better and you may find your opinion might just change? Maybe the other mum was nervous??

Just avoid them. Always have an excuse ready to avoid a visit from them and vice versa. It shouldn’t be too hard to be ‘busy’ they’ll eventually get the hint and stop asking. It’s a bit sad that it should stop because you consider the child weird. If the mum freaks you out too much, have the child visit yours. Your child and this child could have a really special relationship, you need to give it more than one play date. And yes, you do sound snobby

As parents its hard not to judge others because of trying to protect your child
If you trust your childs judgement enough maybe their friendship is worth giving a try
You may find the reason behind what you think is weirdness and it may be something innocent and not their fault
There will always be kids you dont want your kid around but kids have to learn for themselves and its always great to see others so accepting and maybe your son doesnt think he is weird at all and maybe your miss informed about them both

if serious red flags come up then try encourage other play dates with other kids or simply tell your child what you see or feel is wrong and why. in age appropriate conversation

A little story: my son had a friend that I was not to keen on, the same also applied to his mum. I did not judge or criticize or discourage him from being friends and playing with this boy. Now the boy is grown and has turned out to be a really lovely, very well mannered and a pleasure to be around. So the moral to the story, you just never know how things turn out.
Your son must think well of this boy and enjoy his company so maybe you should put some trust in his beliefs.

Try and get to know them better first. As adults, we seem to be very judgemental of others and what they do/how they do it. Unless you mean they are weird in the sense of being dangerous. That’s a different story.

It is your business what you do, but I wouldn’t be stopping him, you as a parent should be encouraging him not to judge others on what they are like, look like but how they treat you and also act to others how you would like for them to act toward you. Why would you want to stop him from already doing this?

Its a tough one and I’ve been through it too when my girls were little. The simplest way is to keep your kids busy with other friends so they don’t feel they are missing out on play dates. You want your kids to be friends with kids from homes with similar values when they are growing up. I hope this doesn’t sound awful, but its important that they have a good set of friends for the teen years and it starts early.

I agree with the other, get to know them a little bit more.

Just say no, but remember you wont always be able to pick your son’s friends and there will be times you don’t like them.

Maybe have another playdate but somewhere public like a play center, maybe they are new to this or dont get to socialise much with others. Having a child with special needs I have been here myself. and its the relationships with these mums that have helped her and myself so much over the years! give it another go!

Maybe a playdate at a public place?

Everybody has a story; maybe take some time to learn theirs. Your son sees something in this boy, maybe given time you will see something in his family.

well you could always just see how it goes and get to know the mother a little more

Invite the child to your place for future play-dates so that you can be there to supervise what goes on, my kids had a few friends who were different but they turned out to be loyal friends even now that they are young adults. You can’t choose who they play with at school but you can control who they socialise with outside of school by having them visit at your place. Give the child a chance to show his personality & take it from there, if he turns out to be a problem then do not have him over again. Get your own child involved in after school activities to distract & give him the opportunity to meet other children who might end up being good friends for him. Making good friends now while they are young is a good way to ensure they are mixing with the right crowd as they grow into teenagers when it gets hard to monitor who they are hanging out with.
Remember you do not have to give an excuse to avoid a particular child making a play date with yours, just say “sorry we have something on & can’t make it. That way it makes you feel better & it removes the chance of offending someone.

I agree with other Mums, maybe get him to come home so you can monitor them.