Personally, I would be avoiding her. Life is too short to worry about wasting it with those who don’t appreciate you

I am totally estranged from a bossy sister in law and it’s great. I have two other sisters in law that I see infrequently but get on with them well. I think you have to work out what’s best for you and your family.

What a terrible situation for you,just get on with your life and don’t let her ruin your’s!

I wouldn’t let it bother you, i don’t think it’s anything you have done, i’d say the problem is her. have you told her you feel this way? I know you said she’s unapproachable but Sometimes it’s best to just confront the person and if she creates a scene well at least you can tell your husband you tried!

My daughter us experiencing similar thing with her partners sister. She invited her brother to Xmas lunch, but not my daughter. All because the sisters, sister in law said she wouldn’t come if my daughter was invited

This girl sounds like a spoilt little brat!
I am pressuming she has no blood sisters & since she has had no female influences besides her mother growing up she is intimidated by you & because she doesn’t know how to control her emotions she just lashes out.
Unfortunately there is not much you can do.
You can try & be nice & maybe invite her out to lunch, but would you be able to tolerate her that long if she even bothered to come?
Speak to your partner about how you feel & maybe he can speak to his sister regarding her horrible behaviour.
Otherwise, you’re just going to have to tolerate her at family gatherings & appreciate the time you get away from her.
Good luck!

Yes! sounds like she has been a bit spoilt by her family! Good luck!

Unfortunately it may not be anything you have ever done – ignore the tantrums and the behaviour and be assertive and go for you want in life. Do not let anyone spoil your happiness.

More fool everyone who panders to her wants and needs. She’s not a child, so she should realize that the world doesn’t revolve around her. But I guess as long as people give her what she wants, then she’ll continue the way she is. I’d politely but firmly stand my ground, and if what she wants doesn’t fit with what you want, you’ve got to follow your heart. The more you give in to her, the worse the situation will become, and the longer it will go on. Treat her like you would a selfish child.

I would rock the boat, who does she think she is ?

Don’t conform! Don’t be rude about it, but tell her that it doesn’t suit you and your family so you will be doing “blah” instead. Smile and invite her if you want to . Stand your ground and maybe others in the family will also see that they don’t need to be bullied by this woman.

I got one of these, i try to ignore her as much as possible. And as for conforming not a chance live your life the way you and your fiance want to let her conform, eventurally she will realise she is the one missing out on a great family

Sounds like she has been a bit spoilt by her family. I would ignore her.

By trying to resolve this issue you are again giving her the attention she seeks … as hard as it may be you need to distance yourself have no contact and see where this leads. even if you see her at a family event do not acknowledge her or speak with her. If you choose not to go to an event that she is going to as well then she is winning as she know s she has kept you away.

how are things going now

How are you approaching this issue now?

How are things going with her?

I think I would just be polite and greet her with the hello and good byes when you see her, but don’t think too much into it. She may become better over time and be more accepting.

Ive been in the same situation and i think ignoring her is the best way to go!!!

I’d ignore her – I don’t waste my energy on people who make it obvious they don’t want to know me