My 8 year old doesn’t like to be on her own. She may choose to play in her room by herself but then will get really upset and feel as though she is being neglected/left out because the rest of the family are together. You just have to keep persisting and maybe hide the remote! A new baby IS demanding, but remember, she has been an only child for 9 years so will need to make a huge adjustment to her new life! I’m expecting my fourth. My second born is STILL worried he will be forgotten/neglected even though he has been through it all. He and his younger sibling are both high needs and his fear is that if this baby is too there will be zero time for him. He even regressed and we had to dress him every day etc. he adores his little sister, even saying she is the best thing to ever happen to him! You just need to give your daughter what time you can and assure her she won’t be neglected. Independent activities will come in time

I used to hang a list with activities my daughter could chose from in the living room, for when she was bored. When I remember well it had 32 activities

My 9 year old will entertain herself however she hates having to dress herself, or even turn the water on for the shower. Maybe it’s just a stage they go through?

Maybe you could let her invite some friends over and let the child play with them? Or do sports that encourages independence orienteering is excellent for this (and many events can be done with a pusher to bring new bub along in a few months so you could join in too, although have the choice of being alone or going round with her). If she makes friends through a sport she may also be able to go out with other families if you need to focus on new bub and/or look after yourself. She is growing up, so spreading her wings is normal!

I have a 6 yr old and a 13 yr old. My eldest was similar when she was younger- found it hard to entertain herself and always wanted attention, someone to play with her etc. My youngest is the opposite. I would suggest not allowing her to have any tv time so she has to start using her imagination. Limiting tv time pushes kids to have to think about doing something else instead of sitting in front of the tv. Maybe when you are cooking in the kitchen, ask her to help you – so she feels somewhat including in what your doing. I always have my 6 yr old help ( well she offers)- but she helps with dinner, putting the dishes away, sorting out the laundry. Even if you have her doing some painting or colouring in while your outside – at least she will feel close to you whilst you can still get things done. Dont give in to the sulking – or she will continue to do it . Good luck and all the best

Sometimes you have to work on developing a hobby, like reading, drawing, painting making things. I often buy little craft packets (sewing kits, modelling clay / foam, woodwork) which I give to my kids as a reward or give when they are bored.
You could also plan a playdate or put her in an afternoon club/sport

Depending on what you’re doing when she is asking you to play – have a list of jobs and give her the option of helping and then you’ll give her 15 min of play (set a timer) or you’ll play in X amount of time (like 30 min/1 h and again set a timer so you can keep your word). She may enjoy spending time with you even if it’s jobs. And then the reward of some playtime.
Also if she watches TV, say no tv for an hour but give her a choice of a few ideas like a puzzle or craft or dancing to music.
I’m sure others will have some helpful suggestions!