Lol my husband knows how to get plates and cutlery out of the cupboard but isn’t able to put them back in place
But honestly, we had some conversations about what my husband could do which is emptying the bin, doing dishes in the evening and vacuuming, he mows the lawn as well. Dishes and vacuuming he has now handed over to the teenagers. My husband never had a problem putting clothing items in the wash and I stopped tidying them away (idem for my kids) he can do it himself
And in general, I help him with things, he helps me with things

Can you perhaps agree on a number of specific tasks he will do, and teach him those specifically?

Has hubby started doing more chores in the home?

l would sit down and have a chat that you need his help with a few things,nagging will make it worse!

Most important thing is to not get angry at him or he will use your anger as an excuse not to do any work. Ask him nicely and calmly. If he doesn’t do it in a reasonable amount of time, ask him again calmly. If he does the task but it’s not done properly to the point that you’re spending time fixing his work, then show him how you’d like the task done and leave it at that. Keep repeating this process until he gets it. Most importantly – don’t get angry – stay calm. Good luck.

It really is only fair that everyone in a household help – always discuss the delegation of duties with partners and everyone in a family – big and little!

A roster with delegated chores and talk it through together – this goes here and this is how we do this. All adults should help out with all chores.

If it’s annoying you so much, say something and be honest with him. I would ask him what indoor household chores he would like to do and he can add that to the outdoor chores he already does.

I drew up a bit of a chore chart so everyone had to get involved including my husband!

I’m pretty lucky with my husband, he helps but if you’ve got kids make a chore chart and for em to do it, lead by example put mum and dad on there too, not nagging just leading by example

perhaps ask him to help you and do the task together a few times then ask would he mind sticking a load of washing on. some men need instruction and are happy to do it but don’t see that it needs doing!!

I used to feel the same. However, I read an article that made me think twice and now appreciate any help he gives. Basically the main point I took away was ‘when did your way of doing something become the correct way’ and why is it that when he does it his way, it’s the ‘wrong’ way? Is it such a big deal that the plate isn’t siting next to the teacups and the bowls aren’t all stacked on top of each other?

lol i know! i know the frustration! just show him how you prefer to have it done. I think that it is great that your hubby helps you