Hello!

I would love some advice on how to approach other mums at pick up and drop off to open up a conversation and start chatting? I find this hard sometimes as people can be unapproachable. I missed out on the meet up before school started as we were away and no one was interested in a second meet up. Your advice or tips would be greatly appreciated.


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  • I usually just go up and introduce myself and explain who my child and usually is always smooth where the conversation occurs naturally.Always ask them who their child is


  • A smile usually works wonders if you can get the mums off their phones long enough to look your way.


  • Honestly, just say something like “HI! I’m so and so’s Mum. I think your kid is in her class?” Most people truly will be friendly and willing to start a conversation. Just don’t pick the Mum who looks like she’s in a hurry!


  • I would have loved some advice when I was dropping my children off to school. Just start by saying hello and take it from there


  • I’m not sure about school pick ups. But there are some groups on facebook. Maybe check if there is a local one around?


  • There are a few apps ‘social mumma’ and peanut that help mums find mum friends. School kids I can’t help with.


  • I always first focused on the mums of the kids in my own children’s class and start with those are open for a hi and a chat. Ask about their kids, how they’re settling in etc. Then in time play dates are a great way to invite mum & kids over at your place. I look back on many lovely afternoons whereby the kids were playing in the garden, whilst the mum ‘s were drinking a cuppa and were connecting. At times I had 8 mums over and 20+ children playing in the backyard. All the kids and mums LOVED it !


  • I’m in the same boat as I work full-time and don’t really see any parents. I do have one friend though and she approached me when she recognised my son when we were walking our dogs. Maybe it would be easier to meet other parents in a different setting, like at a park, etc. pick up and drop off is so rushed!


  • Making mum friends is so hard. I’ve just moved hours away from where I gave birth and attended new mums group, and starting over again is so daunting. To put myself out there I try to ask about their kids, compliment and feel out if we could click as friends. I hope to be brave enough myself soon and be the one to initiate a group meet up! Big girl pants moves.


  • Asking a question can be a good way to start a conversation. ie: Who is your child? What are they liking about school etc. Some of my best friends are my kids friends’ mums :)


  • I’d love to know this too! My daughter starts kindy next week and I don’t know anyone going to her school. I’ve seen quite a few of the ither mums being really chatty and clicky at the orientation days and don’t have the confidence to start a convo. I reakon starting by chatting to their closest friends parents and organising a playdate is a great start.


  • I found that its really not worth it sometimes there are some mums that can be nasty and sometimes talk before your back about you which I have encounted.


  • Agree, a play date is always a good way to get to know other parents. Ask your child if they have a friend they’d like to ask and go from there.


  • Sometimes the other mums are the same, find out who is your child’s closest friend so you have a opening and then go from there and ask a play date


  • If your child has particular friends at school maybe start by approaching that parent with an offer of arranging a playdate at a park etc.


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