I am going to write a story and sadly it is true. I am so sad and lost. What would you do? My son and his wife had a baby in a town where I live. They brought my 2 granddaughters here while their mother gave birth to my granddaughter no 3. I didn’t get to see my granddaughters and I wasn’t told when the baby was born. Then they left to return home. I’m devastated and can’t stop crying. Please help.

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  • When drugs were involved around your grandchildren, I think you did the right thing by calling the police. I myself have 2 kids under a legal guardianship order who were removed from their biological parents because of drugs. Of course this is very hard for the parents and they are filled with guilt and shame, but the only way they can cope with these feelings is by blaming…
    I hope for you that the contact has been somewhat restored.

  • This is obviously a really complicated situation. I think your best approach is to ask your son why you didn’t get the chance to see your grand-daughters – calmly – and then go from there.

  • I’m reading the comments and can’t follow what’s happened. Regardless I’m sorry for what you’re going through.

  • It’s hard to give good solid advice on thus without knowing high sides of the situation. What an awful situation to be in though. It’s so hard when you have children, you love them so much, it’s not good when they are making mistakes and wrong life choices. I hope this is close to being sorted for you

  • I hope you can sort something out. I don’t know how much discussion about drugs you had with the family before you called the police, but they might be upset you did that. I know it is in the best interest of the children but that doesn’t mean they aren’t upset. Maybe an open non heated discussion needs to happen with you all to mend the relationship.
    Also, as someone who does love her mother dearly and miss her as she lives quite far away, I also don’t want her to visit too often and I don’t visit her for my own mental health reasons.
    I hope you can resolve the issue as being left out of the family would be quite devastating, but maybe discuss it with them rather than strangers on the internet.

  • Thank you all for some advice. Memories last a life time and I remember my son as a beautiful young boy xxx. Love you mate and your beautiful family xxx

  • Gosh, as a mother of course you would want your children to do the right thing regardless of their age. Could you try ringing up a family counsellor in your local area and explain the situation to them and see what they suggest as it is a sensitive situation between you and the children and hopefully soon you will be united again .

  • I don’t care what my son felt about my judgment you Don’t mix Drugs with children and as I said I have helped them get to a better place now. You don’t treat a mother that has always stood by you and loves you like this.

  • Without knowing the details of the situation, I don’t know whether what you did was right. But I think it’s pretty plain that your son and his wife were offended by you calling the police, and don’t want to risk your judgement again.

  • I’m so sorry this happened to you!l think you need to talk to your son and find out why you are being treated this way l hope it all works out!

  • No the only thing behind this story is I loved and helped my family when needed. Would anyone not call police for help when drugs are involved around their granddaughters. I did and I would do it again to help my kids. Xx

  • There has to be a greater back story to this… do you usually have a good relationship with them?
    There has to be something else at play here.

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