there are some good comments here

Did you find out why?

Could it be a lack of privacy…? He just might not feel comfortable

does he go when you drop him off? maybe he doesn’t want to go with staff or other children there?

Did you find out what was causing him not to go at pre-school?

i really hope it worked out

he might be self conscious?

Really hope that he is able to go soon

If its one of those open plan toilet settings like at our preschool he may just be shy, time may make it easier, talk to his teachers and see how they go!

be patient, he will eventually like to be like other kids and do the same

Give him time. It’s only early days, and he will soon learn that going to the toilet is much more pleasant than holding on or having an accident. Patience is the key here

He will get there, give him some time

I’ve noticed the doors on the toilets at our pre school are half the height of a normal door so maybe he’s scared that others can see him or maybe he doesn’t feel comfortable going with a teacher present. Filling him up on water certainly can’t be nice for him tho!

unfortunately i dont have any advice but am keenly reading this as my 7year old wont go number 2’s at school, goes two or three times once we are home. Must be awful that your little man wont go at all. good luck

I think some times it can be performance anxiety due to the fact that most day care toilets aren’t exactly private, we worked out this was why our daughter was refusing to go at day care.

What a sad world we live in when our child care workers /teachers can’t take our kids to the toilet.

Poor little man, hope he grows out of this soon

there is a child at our centre who has special written permission to use the staff toilets with doors otherwise he doesn’t go. try him yourself first and then if he goes get them to try him.

Have you been with him when he has to use the toilet at the preschool? Maybe he needs you there the first time just for re-assurance?

poor lttle man probably gets embarrassed and will grow out of it in time. My kids will happily do a number 1 at school but always hold 2s until they get home