This must be such a hard time and I am sure it will always be. It sounds like he has totally disconnected and you won’t be getting the answer you are after. You have to just let it go and move on. When contact happens just keep it about the kids.. Make sure you don’t isolate yourself.

Im so sorry you are going through this right now, it must be hard and you probably have a lot of unanswered questions as well. Although it may be hard to see now, take it as a blessing for better things to come your way. Know that him walking out has done you a favour rather than leaving you feel unwanted and unloved in the relationship. You are deserving of love and someone who thinks the world of you.

I’ve been through a divorce and I was told by a counsellor to get a piece of paper and make 2 columns down the page and put all the things wrong with him and all the things right. And to be brutally honest. Once done you’ll find that the wrong things outweighs the right and that should help you. Also, to write a letter and say everything you feel and when finished, read it and tear it up! It helps getting your feelings out. It’s very hard but you will get through it and you’ll be stronger. But please don’t rush into another relationship for at least a year. Give yourself time to heal and really know who you are. I hope this helps as it did me.

Is he someone who usually has trouble communicating? If so, it may be helpful to ask him if he’d see a counsellor with you. They may be able to help him open up and explain to you how he’s feeling – assuming the problem is that he’s struggling to do so.

This is very sad and I am so sorry you went through this. Unfortunately sometimes we will never get the answers we want from other people. It’s great you had the courage to ask him but if you know deep down this was not a true answer you may need to consider that you will never get one, try and make peace with yourself and move on otherwise it will eat at you for the rest of your life and you deserve better.

Your post saddened me when you we’re treading on eggshells. He doesn’t care, moved on and doesn’t want to explain himself probably to avoid conflict. I don’t know, I’m just guessing. You need to move on. Don’t dwell on the past because it’s eating you up inside..Sometimes things are better left unsaid to prevent conflict

That is a very sad situation. I should at least be able to tell you why after all this time, surely? Maybe you should see if you could meet and speak in person? Is there anyone else you could talk to? Mutual friends who know both of you? You definitely do deserve an answer and not being able to give you a proper one does indicate that he is feeling guilty about something or has something to hide.

You sound blindsided, not bitter. And its totally understandable. Unfortunately you’ll probably never understand exactly why he’s decided to do it, but you can try to make it easier on yourself. Therapy can do a world of good. And try to dive into things you love that give you joy. You deserve happiness

You don’t sound like a bitter ex to me but as someone who’s seeking answers and trying to understand. The fact that he walked out and left after you expressed to him that you felt that you guy had become disconnected, may indicate he felt rejected or his narcissistic ego got damaged. When he doesn’t want to talk over the phone to organise flights for your daughter to visit then leave it be; it’s his call to make anyway, you don’t have to organise that. It’s sad for you and the children but I would focus on stability and happiness for you and your children without him.

I think it is very good advice to write a letter and put down all the things you have worried about and would like to know as to why your husband just walked out on you. Surely there must have been some problems in the marriage that you can put your finger on. I do hope you can come to some sort of reconciliation in your own mind and just maybe your child would be better off with you as he finds it hard to talk about flights etc.

What a shock it must have been for you all. Sit down and write a letter to your ex with how you felt when he left, how your daughter is feeling and ask him why he left. You don’t have to send it, once it is written down it might release something inside of you. 19 years is a long time to just walk away from. He either doesn’t want to have his daughter visit him or it’s finally dawning on him the enormity of what he has done and that is why he can’t talk to you.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know it must be incredibly painful and confusing. Just take it one day at a time and keep focusing on yourself and your daughter. Things may not feel okay now, but they will get better with time.

Wishing you strength and comfort.

I am sure you are very hurt.
The truth is that you deserve someone who will love you and sadly this Man although he may love you he doesnt love you enough. Turn it around and be thankful that he has left. Take time to heal and when you are ready allow your heart to be given to another. Dont settle for second best. Wait for your Mr Wonderful.