Toddler tantrums - Mouths of Mums

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Looking on advice to handle a toddler while out in public for example was at snow time and when we went to leave an hour later 2 year old screamed and carried on the whole time we were leaving it felt embarrassing especially with everyone looking at us


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  • Nawwww! I’m a little late to the party so I hope you’ve found something that works for you. When our bubs were that age it was a struggle aswell. I remember I took the umbrella off my son and he just dropped to the floor and started screaming. It was so embarrassing.
    I think there’s definitely some good advice here. Don’t worry about anyone else or what anyone else it thinking (harder said then done I know) but truly only you and your child matter. I’d try getting down to your child’s level and speaking very quiet to them so they see that no only are you being calm and quiet but you are demonstrating to them this is how we need to be right now. You could also try the distraction idea, often just a quick oh wow look what’s happening over there can help but I think importantly if you are really done and need to leave just a simple, pick them up and go teaches your child that what mum says goes. I think as long as you are showing your child that you sticking to what you say is the most important. There’s nothing worse than when mums give in to crying and say ‘ok five more minutes’ I really think this sets them up for future failures and repeat behaviour. Also, just lastly, I always found it helped me if I told my child my expectations before we went anywhere. Ie, we are going to the park now for a little play but when mummy says it’s time to go, then we need to leave okay? We will then go home and get dinner ready, etc I found this made a huge difference for us because our kids knew expectations and what’s happening next. Even if it’s just simply ‘mummy needs a little rest after the park’ communication is a wonderful tool to teach your child. Hope this helps! That age passes so fast, these memories will make you laugh one day


  • When my child threw her last tantrum, we were in a shopping centre main st and every week I went food shopping she’d throw these tantrums. I was at my wits end one day why she threw herself on the ground and was screaming so I just walked away. She could see me but I kept walking and in no time at all, she’d stopped screaming and ran after me and she never threw a tantrum again. I’m not saying this was right but at that time it was right for me. You just have to do what you can and don’t worry about other people because I’m sure they’ve been through it too.


  • At two years old, they can’t yet self-regulate their emotions the way adults do, so this is completely normal for their developmental level. When my two year old gets highly upset, I start by making an observation and helping her name her emotion, “It sounds like you are frustrated, I hear your breathing is getting very fast.” Then we practice taking deep breaths together, exhaling slowly. Sometimes I start by offering her a hug. This process de-escalates the situation and gives them a strategy to calm down. The key is to be the calm to their storm. The more practice they have using these strategies the easier it gets. x


  • My advice, even though extremely hard in the moment. Is to try and keep calm and offer a distraction, sometimes it takes numerous things to work but finding the right distraction can sometimes be the winning ticket.


  • IGNORE the outside noise, focus on your little one. I know it is hard, but I received this advice and in time it definitely helped me not get so worked up when trying to settle my toddler. If you are worrying about other people and becoming stressed out by the situation, then your toddler will pick up on this and feed off it resulting in a more heightened situation. The most important thing is to look after you, do what you need to get you toddler to leave, and take deep breaths. Toddlers are HARD work. They will have their moments at the most inconvenient time unfortunately. Mine is a currently a nightmare to try get into his car seat- it is not fun times! Stand strong- you got this Mumma!


  • I found the audiobook ‘No bad kids; toddler discipline without shame’ really helpful. At that age they are usually either hungry, tired, or don’t understand when fun has to end. The best we can do is get to their level, tell them in a calm manner that it’s time to leave, and get them out of there. They are still working out their feelings and the world so tanties are bound to happen. Anyone who has kids or been around young kids knows what it’s like, so try not to feel embarrassed. It’s just one of those fun little things that goes along with parenting. I always tell myself that the same little terror is also that adorable guy I see 99% of the time


  • I found the audiobook ‘No bad kids; toddler discipline without shame’ really helpful. At that age they are usually either hungry, tired, or don’t understand when fun has to end. The best we can do is get to their level, tell them in a calm manner that it’s time to leave, and get them out of there. They are still working out their feelings and the world so tanties are bound to happen. Anyone who has kids or been around young kids knows what it’s like, so try not to feel embarrassed. It’s just one of those fun little things that goes along with parenting. I always tell myself that the same little terror is also that adorable guy I see 99% of the time


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