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“My daughter is nearly 11 months, I’m just wondering at what age should she be able to start attempting to feed herself? I have friends who still spoon feed their children and they are 3 and older, am I just being to impatient or should I try to teach her now?” What answer would you give this mum? When should children start to feed themselves?

Posted by Anon, 30/03/13

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  • start now. I like to provide a spoon or fork from the start, so they can play and practise using it. its all about exposure!


  • One year is a good age to train them for feeding themselves


  • Let her try now, just give her a spoon and let her try. All of my kids were eating somewhat independently by a year old. My youngest is 2.5 and I wouldn’t even dream of spoon feeding her.


  • Good to know! Really very interesting comments on this! Thanks


  • When they’re capable of holding a spoon is when you should let them start feeding themselves….or at least start trying. It’ll take a while for her to get the hang of it and you’ll probably need to have a spoon too. But she’ll learn. Good luck


  • 3 is too old to be spoon fed unless there is an isue ie disability. Under 1 the daycare let them go for it and only help them if they need it. They seem to like independence and taking control


  • gosh mine is 6 months and already grabs the spoon and trys to find his mouth. puree of course. I think finger food from 8months?


  • every child is different. As soon as my daughter was able to pick up food for herself I gave her a spoon. she mainly just used it to chew on but now at 18 months she eats yoghurt and cereal by herself.


  • It will happen over time!!


  • Hope you managed to find the answer you were looking for.


  • Every child is different, it won’t be long


  • How did your daughter go with feeding herself?


  • My daughter was about 28 months when she could confidently use a spoon to herself with minimal mess.


  • You will know when they are ready . Both mine were keen and used to want the hold the spoon themselves. Then it just went from there..


  • Let them experiment and play with baby cutlery . It is a good learning opportunity, even if she doesn’t use them straight away to eat food with, but her little hands can explore how to hold them


  • Let her go for it! The only way shes going to learn is through practice and in my opinion its never too early to give a kid a spoon and let them make a little mess. I think its a little odd for a 3 year old to still be spoon fed!


  • Yes start teaching your child now, my 20 month old feeds her self, sometimes it’s messy but whatever, I clean it, my rule is that she must be in her highchair. It’s crazy that 3 year olds still get spoon feed, who has time for that.


  • U can let ur child do it now. If they can pick things up they can feed themselves.


  • Definitely encourage her now I think


  • She should be encouraged as soon as she can sit up and try to feed herself, evenif you just give it to her hand. This would be followed with cutlery by 12 months


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