Britain’s first gender-fluid family are preparing for total transformation as both parents are set to have gender reassignment operations.

Louise and Nikki Draven, who are parents to five-year-old Star Cloud, are planning to undergo the surgery and be in their ‘ideal bodies’ by the time their son is ten.

Biological father Louise, 32 – who Star already calls mummy – is to become a woman and said the change has been ‘a long time coming.’

Star’s biological mother Nikki is set to undergo a female-to-male procedure and will be called Charlie.

Their son is free to play with any toys he likes and paint his nails at home – said they worry ‘like all parents do.’

They said: ‘If we waited until Star was older, he’d spend his childhood with parents who felt incomplete.’

Star is being raised as gender neutral – with his parents focusing on raising a ‘person’ not a ‘boy’ – is said to have a ‘five-year-old’s understanding’ of the families situation.

Although describing Star as well-adjusted Charlie did say he has started asking questions.

‘Recently he asked why I had to wear a swimsuit at the pool and not trunks like other daddies. I tell Star mummy is going to a special doctor who will take away her ducky, which is Star’s word for penis.’

‘Neither of us gets hung up on the gender we were born as,’ Louise, 30, said. ‘We don’t want our child constrained by that either. We’re just an ordinary family being who we want to be.’

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  • Would be very interested to find out how the child reacts in another 10 years to all this going on around him now. Si many psyches have to deal with things that happened in a child’s past to help the troubled adult.


  • It would be interesting to hear from Star when he is old enough how any of this impacted on him


  • As a child in such a situation I would have been very confused. I wonder how this child feels.


  • This is actually not a first. I remember reading an article similar to this approx 6 yrs ago.
    Good luck to them. As long as they are making informed decisions and are doing what is best for their child.


  • This is a first. I am sure will cause much debate.


  • I don’t know. I wonder how it is to grow up as a child with 2 parents who transform because they’re not happy and maybe insecure in the body they came on earth with. Parents are examples to their children. What does this to the child ?


  • This is interesting, on one hand children are very often only as happy as their parents so I say good on them for making this brave choice and also for allowing their son to explore both gender stereotypes. On the other hand I really do question if they really were deciding to be gender neutral parents naming a boy Star Cloud. Aside from setting him up for bullies and general childish responses it’s a very feminine sounding name.


  • I don’t really know how i feel about this . I understand some people are living their lives feeling incomplete or “in the wrong bodies” but i just worry for the child. I presume he has everything explained to him and can deal with the emotional side of things


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