I dont agree with this article. Its one that might make someone in an unhappy realtionship decide to stay in the hope that things will change over time and thats not always the case.

I don’t think it’s definitive that if you stay together for a long time you will ultimately end up happier. Yeah, that could happen with some. With others, it could end up worse as time goes on. It very much depends on the people involved

So long as the two parties involved are willing and want to be in a partnership then I am sure it works no matter what age. However if one is entering into the arrangement with other than a sincere wish for it to work, then nothing, no matter how many compromises, will make it work.
Am now on a long term relationship [3] and couldn’t be happier. 1 – husband died unexpectedly on his way to see his son, 2 was a manipulative marriage and despite my best efforts it was meant to fail. 3 couldn’t be happier after 36 years. So this author’s work is still dependent upon the people he is assessing to get his results.

With respect i don’t think so. It must only be San Francisco Bay area.

I do think that they can get better over time with respect and acceptance as the two key things for me

I think you know your boundaries so it’s easier but a little more unpredictable and boring

The beginning and first few years require so much patience, compromise and understanding but it really does get better provided you’ve married a decent person and your willing to compromise on your end as well. I know so many marriages that have either broken down or headed for divorce over simple things that could have easily been prevented! I think we get imparient and hot headed a little at the begining but then it gets better. Marriage unfortunately didn’t begin so well (due to the involvement of in laws!!! never thought I’d end up there but I did! typical situation) but with patience and compromise it got better and boy did it get better! hopefully as more years go by, it gets better and better and better!

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  • • mom101628 replied
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  Agree with the first part of your comment – you have to be compatible in the first place and then the marriage will work. Marriage wearing rose coloured glasses doesn’t last – and if there is little love in the beginning it also won’t work. First marriage broke down [19 years later] because there wasn’t any love in the beginning – he was pining for another woman and his siblings needed desperately to marry but family/cultural tradition said the first born must be married before the later children. Later he told me that he felt I was the most deserving person for him to marry, and his two brothers married two and four weeks after us to allow for the banns to be called as they were all strict Catholics. I guess our marriage was destined to fail. Current partner and I have now been together 36 years and have never had a cross word and couldn’t be happier. So pleased I am no longer a deserving person to marry!!!!

I think many do, yes.

I think if you’re with the right person it gets easier, the first years are trying especially with young children and lack of sleep! Your combing 2 different people and changing their lifestyles completely it takes some getting use to.

Yes I do. Our 43rd anniversary was last week but unfortunately I lost my husband last year to cancer. Even so I will be celebrating our anniversary and his birthday every year.

Yes. You will need patient and better understanding.

As long as you respect eachother and stay faithful theres no reason it can’t be a long happy marriage. Obviously the initial ‘buzz’ wears off but like any relationship you both must work at it.

My parents were married at a young age my mum was 21 and my dad was 18 and still together after 62 years of marriage

Yes. I think you need to work at it and stick at it. I’ve been married now for 30 years and am happier now than I’ve ever been.

I don’t think this is true, alot of people get divorced after quite a few years married

I think it can definitely go that way

I’m divorced so I can’t think so for me!

I don’t know if this is true or not as many people do still break up down the track. I think it all depends on the individuals and their communication/commitment to each-other not how long they have been married but some of the points do make sense about things changing over time.

I dont know if time matters or not because I know few couples who split after 10 and 14 years of marriage.

I don’t think time really matters – I’ve known couples who have split after less than 12 months, but I have also known those that have lasted many years (ours included, 32 years and counting!!)