We tried for a while to have a baby and it just wasnt happening. I went to visit my friend in hospital when she had her bub and I felt so sad for me. Little did I know that I was in the very early stages of pregnancy.

I have felt this.. it’s a horrible thing to feel, to not be able to feel happy for someone who is having the one thing you want and it just wouldn’t happen..

My best friend at the time didn’t want to tell me she was pregnant because she knew how badly I wanted it. She knew I would be happy for her but it would hurt me. But I was thrilled for her and everyone else who do get to experience being pregnant and becoming mama’s

No – and I hope mine never caused anyone else pain either. Having had two miscarriages late in pregnancy, I know how those people feel, but I tried not to be ‘over-the-top’ and tried not to talk about them. Still had four wonderful children, but you always miss those who did not survive.
Thanks for the post.

No thankfully I have been able to share their joy and excitement

It’s such a hard one. Going through a miscarriage I understand the pain but I also have been blessed with 2 healthy babies. My friend had been told she may not be able to have children and that hurts but she is so involved with mine I only hope she can get some joy from them.

Oh yess, but it was a Sister in law’s pregnancy. I had just had my second miscarriage in a row with the last one being at 18 weeks. She announced she was pregnant-with twins, it was like a dagger in my heart. She already had 4 kids and I felt so cheated. To make matters worse her twins were born on my babies due date-I was heart broken but had to pretend to be happy.

Yes, definitely. We had just found out we would NEVER have children on the same day our Goddaughter was born. It was so hard and so bittersweet. We then endured 4 years of trying to get pregnant before our last IVF embryo worked. We had so many friends and family getting pregnant and having kids and it was so painful every time. Some days I just couldn’t deal — I couldn’t visit, or attend a baptism when I’d just had an unsuccessful embryo transfer. It was such a painful rollercoaster of emotions.

I relate to this so much. I struggled for years with infertility, miscarries and 5 years of unsuccessful IVF. It’s incredibly painful to have family and friends or even strangers falling pregnant. Especially when they get pregnant ‘first go’ or ‘without trying’ .
The loss of a baby impacts you more than words can say. Spending close to $80,000 on ivf left me financially ruined. That dream of having a family isn’t easy for all of us.

At the same time feel incredibly guilty as naturally are happy for others, but the pain it brings up is awful when you’ve struggled so much to have a child.

I never got this problem.

I was the same after suffering through numerous miscarriages. I dreaded hearing of someone else falling pregnant or seeing babies everywhere.

Bless all who have had painful experiences !

A very informative article with different view point that’s do ensure. Thanks for sharing . No pain here thankfully

Yes absolutely! So much pain but it is ok.

I can’t say I have ever felt like this, and I would hope that my pregnancies never caused my friends pain – even my close friends who don’t have kids yet…Its such a fragile thing…

I sometimes feel a little hurt seeing my friends become pregnant but I never express these feelings to them. They deserve support and congratulations as my time will come one day and I hope they and others would be helpful and supportive to me.

I was very lucky to have never had this problem.

No a friends pregnancy never caused me pain. Even after several miscarriages I was and can get truly excited by the pregnancies of others.

No it hasn’t but I have felt sympathy for those I know that have struggled to fall pregnant. I could not imagine the pain they go through.

I can totally relate, you don’t mean to feel hurt or upset but it’s natural when things don’t go your way when you try

A baby is a blessing wether for you or a friend.