There’s a long list of things we give up over nine months of pregnancy – everything from sushi to skydiving, and one of the most important is alcohol. But do you expect your partner to give it up as well?

One confused dad-to-be says he doesn’t understand why his wife wanted him to curb his alcohol consumption while she was pregnant, and now that she’s breastfeeding.

“My wife has been giving me a hard time about drinking on occasion lately,” he explained on reddit.

“It started when she was pregnant because a few of her friends’ husbands stopped drinking when they were pregnant/pumping (apparently that is a thing?). She wants me to be ‘going through this with her’.”

“I am just not understanding what the problem is? I used to drink whenever I wanted to, if that meant during the week, weekend, whatever and she used to drink with me at the same time. Then, she told me I can only drink on the weekends, and now she says only on social events (rare with a three-month-old). Am I missing something here?”

The new dad says before his wife became pregnant he would typically drink four beers on a Friday and Saturday.

“If I had a sickness and were unable to walk or something, I don’t think that I would try to restrict her from walking so that she would be ‘going through this with me’. Or if I had a gluten allergy I wouldn’t tell her she couldn’t enjoy a pizza whenever she wanted. Am I the a**hole?”

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