Husband Misses Birth Of Firstborn After Nurse Kicks Him Out Of Delivery Room

In agony from hours of labour, a mum-to-be couldn’t take her husband’s delivery room antics any longer. So her nurse decided to kick him out of the room, resulting in the new dad missing the birth of his first child.

But who is the a**hole here?

The new mum says she laboured for 26 hours, without a epidural, and despite the intense amount of pain she was in, her husband’s focus was elsewhere.

“My husband was constantly on the phone ether playing games or talking with with his ‘bros’ being really loud, when I asked him to please hang up he’d hang up the phone and then like 10 mins later call them back,” she explained on reddit.

“He really wanted to talk to them because his friends went on a boys trip without him because I asked to stay back so he could be here when I went into labour, they were calling to tell him about how their trip was going.

“He apologised to them, blaming it on me being a nag. I was really annoyed and told him if he wanted to talk to his friend he could do that elsewhere so I can be in pain in peace.

“He was like, ‘Alright fine baby I’ll just call them back later’. So I had about 20 minutes of peace, until his mum FaceTimed him where he proceeded to put me in the video call. His mum makes a comment about how she remembers when she was in labor with him and that she still did herself up, she even claimed she looked so good the doctor even was flirting with her.”

Nurse decides to kick out husband

As she continued to labour, through all of this distraction, the woman tried to push her feelings down and concentrate on her birth.

“I was holding back everything inside me to not say something as I didn’t want to disrespect my mother-in-law but at the same time she sometimes just makes the stupidest comments at the worst times and at this moment I could not stand talking to her.

“A nurse ends up coming in and could tell I was upset and asks me if everything was alright and I tell her I just really want to be alone. She ends up kicking out my husband and in turn he ends up missing the birth of our firstborn daughter because he left the hospital because he was pissed off that I got the nurse to kick him out the room.

“He refused to come see his daughter afterwards because he was angry at me for kicking him out, my mother in law who did visit me in the hospital wouldn’t stop taking about how I’m such a bad wife for removing my husband from the room.

“When I got home he kept on bringing up how I ruined a moment of bonding with his daughter and how he could never forgive me for that. Am I the a**hole for kicking my husband out the delivery room because he was making phone calls?”

What do you think of the situation? Let us know in the comments below.

42 Comments

- - Zmijka86 said
  - 07 Dec 2022
    8:37 pm
I will kick my husband out as well if he will be acting like that.

- - mom101628 said
  - 27 Aug 2022
    12:58 am
If he wanted to be with you at the birth of his daughter, he should have turned his phone off and been with you.

- - mom208614 said
  - 26 Aug 2022
    5:49 pm
You should have gotten the nurse to kick his mum out too.

- - ~Loui~ said
  - 26 Aug 2022
    12:12 am
This man shouldn’t be allowed to have children. He is obviously not considerate of others.

- - mom180498 said
  - 25 Aug 2022
    6:54 pm
He sounds like a very immature git who for the help and support that he was, perhaps should’ve just gone on the boys trip. How sad for his labouring wife that he was unable to see that she really needed him at that time and he wasn’t able to give her the support she needed. As sad as it is for the wife – good on the nurse for kicking his butt out of the room! Some people just fail to see the needs of others.

- - Amanda Holland said
  - 24 Aug 2022
    10:08 pm
If he wanted to be there for the birth, then he would have been there and not on his phone all the time

- - mom160270 said
  - 24 Aug 2022
    8:17 pm
The nurse acted appropriately. The father did not.

- - mom489365 said
  - 23 Aug 2022
    1:23 pm
I would have kicked him out after his first phone call. Family and friends can wait after the birth for chit chats. He needed to be by his wife’s side giving her 100% of his attention and as for the mother-in-law commenting on how she did herself up before giving birth, how rude and pretentious. Good work on the mumma to be holding back her words to not offend the mother-in-law.

- - mom265671 said
  - 22 Aug 2022
    10:11 pm
If he wasnt engaged, why even bother having them! I agree

- - mumof3 said
  - 22 Aug 2022
    7:16 pm
Wow, doesn’t sound like the relationship is going to end well.

- - Jessica said
  - 22 Aug 2022
    7:05 pm
If he didn’t want to miss the birth he should have been present in the moment and not on his phone
- mom160270 replied
  
  24 Aug 2022 , 8:15 pm
  Yes, I agree. His behaviour was unacceptable.
- - tessie said
  - 22 Aug 2022
    1:21 pm
I’ve always said that nurses are angels on this earth and this just proves my point. I will also point out that there were 2 people who ruined this magical moment and it wasn’t you or the nurse. If your husband wanted so badly to bond then why was he constantly on his phone. And you MIL should have known better. I wish you all the best and enjoy your new daughter.

- - mom485263 said
  - 22 Aug 2022
    12:04 pm
Good on the nurse for stepping up and looking out of the mum when the hubby was just been a d*%K.
- mom111059 replied
  
  22 Aug 2022 , 8:05 pm
  Absolutely. The nurse was looking after Mums welfare. Dad should not have been on his phone and so uncaring.
- - rovermum said
  - 22 Aug 2022
    10:09 am
Really? That Nurse is a hero for kicking him out. Was an arrogant ignoramous that he thinks this is somehow his wife’s fault. Sadly, I think this is a reflection on what he will be like as a father. He was the one that didn’t prioritise his wife and his newborn.

- - Ellen said
  - 22 Aug 2022
    4:26 am
The husband wanted to support his friends and prioritized them above his wife who was delivering their first born child; he made a choice with that….

- - NicolaL said
  - 21 Aug 2022
    9:59 am
Good on the Nurse who picked up what was happening and putting your well-being first. It’s totally his fault that he missed out on the birth. Very inconsiderate and selfish of him!

- - Jgracex said
  - 21 Aug 2022
    9:07 am
He was very out of line and didn’t respect your privacy at all. It’s a shame that he missed the birth but at the same time if he respected your wishes he would of been there. I’m hoping your beautiful baby is enough to help you guys move past it 🙂

- - Motherhoodmama said
  - 20 Aug 2022
    10:21 pm
My hubby was pretty bad in my last birth too. I feel you.

- - mom462185 said
  - 20 Aug 2022
    6:11 pm
I fully agree with you and the nurse. He was being very rude and disrespectful. If he wanted to be their for you and his fir.st born he wouldn’t have been on the phone.

- - meedee said
  - 20 Aug 2022
    10:01 am
O M G… Im sorry but sadly you married a douche bag and its doubtful that he will change and sadly his Mummy will back him all the way.
Take care of you and make sure you always a way of supporting yourself and your child.