I wouldn’t have cut hair without double checking with parents.

She’s definitely in the wrong. I’m sure she wouldn’t appreciate it if the situation was reversed. Also the boy is under 18 years of age so all consent needs to come from the parents, not the child.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 06 Jul 2023 , 5:16 am

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  I agree, it would be interesting to know the response if there was a reversal.

Definitely wrong to not check first. There is a big difference between styling and cutting! And the fact that she doesnt realise it’s wrong, her response to the parent’s question sounds close to defensive or beligerant…it’s not actually a big ask to phone or message for the okay before leaping in. Yes, the boy has a say in his hair, but it would be manners and the right thing to check with his guardian or parent before you do something that is not easily reversible…what if they had family fotos booked, or he was growing his hair for a cancer charity thing? Not okay, i’d be cross and upset if someone did that to my kids without my approval first.
Also, a buzz cut in winter months is pretty chilly (speaking from experience as a vintage punk and goth here!!!)

I am on the fence with this one. My daughters are 7 and 9 and i take into account what they like. If they went to a friend’s house for a playdate and came back with a different hairstyle or colour (as long as the colour is one that comes off in the next wash), I’m ok with it because in my house my kids decide their hair.

But if it’s someone else’s kid i would ask the parents before i did anything

I would be furious if someone cut my child’s hair. This is not ok.

She knows she was in the wrong not your child why didn’t she just puck up the phone and ask cause she knew she was wrong ,my child would not be going back there again

Yep, definitely in the wrong. 12 is still a child and she should have got permission first.

Should probably have asked the parents if it’s okay first

She should not have touched a hair on his head without Okaying it with the parents. It doesn’t mention if she is even a qualified hairdresser – which would also matter to some.

Unfortunately a 12yr may make decisions on how to style their hair but when it comes to getting it cut, its the parents who have to consent. Should of checked with the parents first. I would be furious if my son came home with a haircut that I didn’t approve.

Styling is one thing cutting and colouring is another. She had no right- she’s not the parent.

What she “belives” doesnt matter when its not her child. The parents should have been asked. Hes 12.

The parents should have been asked. At the end of the day he is still a child.

I didn’t realise I had to fear this lol so when my little one is old enough to go to a friends house they may come home with a haircut? Surely not!

Yes, this mum was wrong to bypass the parents

Yeah, No. It’s not something that should be done without discussing with his parents.

Definitely in the wrong, she even said she put some colour in his hair. She should have asked the parents first.

I would have checked with the parents first. A 12 year old should have a say but also a lot of parents want some sort of authority so better to check in first.

Well absolutely a 12 year old has a say, but you also would never do that without the parents permission. It’s not hard to send a quick text or make a phone call – there’s literally no excuse for her to not have asked the parents first, except maybe ignorance. I’d be furious too

Even though the child wanted his hair cut, it is better to ask the parents/caregivers. There might be a reason his hair was like it was. Yes I agree he is old enough to know what he wants but the parents need to be told/asked.