Your wife is trying to send you a message. You need to stand up to your father once and for all.
I’ll bet this isn’t the first time she’s mentioned it and she’s sick of you not sticking up for yourself and her.

No your father is. Your wife and her mother and sisters should let you explain. I don’t blame you for not wanting to risk losing your job. Your father is a real piece of work though.

The dad is the a**hole. I would suggest looking for a new job and standing up to him. This guy missed a massively important moment in their and their baby s life. If I was the wife I would be upset too, however I wouldn’t keep the baby away from its daddy

How shattering.

Oh wow, seems like an over reaction by mum and her family. The fil was also an A hole. What an incredible situation. One I’m sure will sort itself out in time, as long as the in laws stay out of it

Sounds like MIL and the sisters have a hand in making this decision. Your wife just birthed YOUR child and while she probably is upset that you weren’t present at the birth, doesn’t it matter more to be present throughout the child’s life? You are the parents, not MIL and Aunts. Your wife is emotional and vulnerable, no doubt, after giving birth and it seems they are interfering because this is definitely not helping your wife or your child by keeping you apart. I hope you see your baby and wife soon and get to enjoy those moments that are very fleeting as it is.

He needs to beg for her forgiveness and promise to put her and their children ahead of everyone else. Get himself a new job and cut ties with his toxic father. How can a father do that to his own child and his grandchild. My father-in-law was one of the first people to see my children after they were born and i couldn’t have had a better father-in-law and grandfather to my kids.
Any man who would threaten their own child’s job is not someone i would want my children to have any relationship with.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 15 Sep 2022 , 4:27 am

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  Yes, I would cut ties with this toxic father too. However I do understand it can be hard in some cultures to cut the ties, especially since this was a business run by the family for decades.

I think the Dad is the one who was a real a@$hole. I can totally understand why your wife was upset but she shouldn’t be stopping you from seeing your child… I’d also be looking for a new job….

I think it’s wrong you havnt seen your little one. I also think their should of been a plan in place with your dad/boss for when your partner went into labour. Time to find a new job!

You poor man. You have a right to see your little one. You wife and MIL aren’t being fair. You definitely aren’t a bad father. Losing your job at the moment is a big stress, and to understandable that you didn’t want to loss it. But Definitely find a different job.

No right stop you seeing the child but I would definitely look for another job. Make sure you leave at the busiest time and can’t be replaced.

Definitely the FIL I’d be keeping the baby from, and finding a new job

What a tough situation to be in but you should have stood up for yourself. Telling you, you would be unemployed if you left is disgusting.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 14 Sep 2022 , 7:41 am

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  Yes definitely out of line in this day and age that also fathers have the right on maternity leave !

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    • • mom93821 replied
      • 18 Sep 2022 , 5:28 am

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    Excellent point about leave and everyone has to stand up for themselves against inappropriate behaviour.

It’s the father in law I’d be keeping the baby from. We have a huge shortage of Chefs in Australia. Leave and work elsewhere. The jobs are out there. He needs to stand up to his father.

I know what I would have said to the FIL and there would be no job at the end of it!

You’re not an a**hole but need to stand up against your father. The birth of your child is such an important occasion in your life; your wife & child come before this job. There are other restaurants that need a master chef.

You were absolutely stuck in a tough situation and you only had good intentions behind your reasons!

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 15 Sep 2022 , 7:46 am

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  Yes and possibly it’s extra hard to get another job when this business has been in the family for decades

That’s a tough situation but jobs come and go- the birth of your child is irreplaceable. Hard to make a decision in the heat of the moment but I feel bad for this dad. He must regret his decision.

Far out. The dad sounds like the a-hole!!!
I would rather be unemployed tbh. I would also cut my dad off if he did that to me. That’s some poor behaviour and i can’t believe people put up with it and work for him.
All the workers should rally and just quit so he learns his lesson.
Poor hubby, I wouldn’t want to be in his shoes.

Look, I think he should have just left and gone to the hospital, but I also sympathise with the position he was put in. I would be looking for other work and letting his wife know that he’s going to ensure nothing similar ever happens again.