Sounds like mum needs more help so she can have a break and some time to herself and get some balance back in her life. Going from 0 to 1 is always going to be the hardest and I hope she comes to love parenting soon

I can kind of relate to this, different but still.
When I married I immigrated from the Netherlands to Northern Ireland. My English wasn’t as good and i struggled expressing myself;
I missed being single (whilst loving my husband dearly),
I missed my friends,
I missed my job,
I missed speaking in my mother tongue
We had some miscarriages as well and I got depressed.
Do not under estimate the hormones playing a role after birth as wel.
Adding a child to your family causes a massive change and it takes adjusting to a new situation and maybe a bit of grieving of that what has gone

A child can be and should be part of so many of those activities; enjoying nature, going out to dinner and other activities. Children do bring change and adjustments do get made to lifestyle. Always seek support if feelings are overwhelming.

As a mum of 7, being a mum is really hard work, especially when they are little, but believe me when I say it does get better, as they get older it gets easier, try to take every day as it comes, no one is a perfect mum and do what makes you feel comfortable, it’s hard but I can honestly say when they are all grown up, you miss the cuddles in the middle of the night, them sneaking into your bed, the looks of amazement on their faces as they discover new things.

It is a big chance having kids. But nothing you can change now. The worrying definitely never stops now. I always worry about my twins.

Definitely a big change and sometimes I wonder if I made the right decision having kids not because I’m unhappy but because the world seems a lot nastier than it did back in my day.
I mean we never had cyber bullying or any of this social media stuff which I really worry will affect self esteem not to mention the amount of haters that have all of a sudden surfaced and have to bring forward their negative comments.
I think if you think about taking your baby away it would be hard to imagine life without them. When you’re old you will hopefully have someone who comes to visit you and show their love for you just like you have looking after them during their younger years.

I would have a chat to a professional just to rule out post natal depression. But honestly, it’s a huge adjustment and it doesn’t always happen overnight. I think this is not abnormal.