We all do it the best way for us and there is no right and wrong way.
I 100% hate needles and for me the thought of having a needles in my spine scared the hell out of me. I was also scared crazy about having a C section. I was able to have births without pain relief. I say that not to make anyone feel bad. I say it because that was what happened. If they had told me I had to have a C section I would have been a nervous wreck and I take my hat off to those that have been down that road.

I had an epi 3 times- did not get rid of all the pain. I couldn’t care less. Best decision for me at the time

Mine was drug free, I tried the gas but couldn’t get it out and the midwife kept pushing me to use it and it was too late for me to have any other of the drugs because I endured for so long.

Shouldn’t the thing that matters most is that us powerful women gave birth, no matter how the labour went.
It doesn’t matter how anyone has given birth, as long as both mum and bub are doing well.

I had an epidural with my first after being in early labour for 36hrs without much progress so i was exhausted but I did feel like I missed out on the birthing/pushing p experience. My second help me experience it a bit too quickly by being born at home, thank God for the ambulance lol

I did three natural births.But all of them painful.

All births are special whether it is a natural one or you need drugs to help you cope. As long as your child is born healthy that is all that matters. If you need drugs don’t try to be a martyr and go without as it might turn you off having any more children. In my eyes all Mum’s have superpowers when they give birth.

My first baby was natural birth and although I had hoped for a natural birth I was open to assistance. I only had a natural birth as by the time I’d got to hospital I was too far gone for an epidural or any other pain meds other than gas that I can’t stand. There is no Superior birth – they’re all amazing in their own way and what ever works best for the mum

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 15 Apr 2021 , 7:41 am

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  Yes, there’s no superior birth indeed !

No birth is superior. Delivering a healthy baby is the end game and it should not matter how a baby is brought into this world.

Seems to be the judgment for women who are able to do it this way, and to be honest if someone needs to feel good about them selves for something that They can do it says more about them and people I don’t need around me.

With my first I wanted to have a water birth. When I booked myself in for the water birth at wk 30, I needed to stay and became an emergency section right then, as my daughter was struggling and the flow through the umbilical cord was in reverse. Her birth weight was 880 gram. And looking back my desire to have a water birth made that we had to go to the hospital at wk 30, she wouldn’t have made it when I would have gone for the scan at 32wks. I was grateful she was alive and well, although her birth weight was 880gm, there were no complications and she had an Apgar score of 9-9 ! I was 40yr when my first arrived, all with all lots to be thankful for

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 13 Apr 2021 , 8:11 am

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  And a drug free birth is certainly not superior. Every birth is different, we should not compare.
  Although I’m a bit proud of my mum who had 5 home births. She’s blessed that all went well.

I had a drug free birth. I sure as he’ll don’t Bragg about it. I asked for an epidural for 3 hours!!! I wasn’t even given gas during labour. I got nothing. I was treated as a covid patient even though I did not have covid. I had a natural but traumatic birth which resulted in forcep use and my baby being in ICU ICU a week and myself being admitted for a few nights. Then offered panadol and nurofen for the pain after birth….. after using forceps! It was a mess. If you need the drugs, you need the drugs.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 14 Apr 2021 , 8:37 am

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  AW poor you, that sounds awful !

I take my hat off to anybody who gives birth, no matter how they bring their little one(s) into the world! I don’t feel like anybody is bragging. We ALL share our birth stories. And everyone should take pride in bringing a new life into this world! I’ve had 3 babies, 2 were induced. All 3 I had morphine for and two I had gas and air for also (boy did I regret not having it with the 3rd!). We all have our own journeys and we share them just as we would a holiday story. Two or more people might visit the same place (and even at the same time) but have totally different experiences… the birthing suite (or home/car etc) is no different!

I did it natural and it was so hard that’s for sure

I’ve never heard anyone boast about this. And all my births were so traumatic that I don’t talk about them for fear of upsetting other people.

Go with the flow. Trust your midwife and doctor and most importantly listen to your body. Do not try to impress anyone on that table. You need drugs you need drugs! Period! We are all different and have different bodies. If a woman start to brag about her drug-free episode walk away!

I think woman that do it with no pain relief are super woman! I would have done anything to have a natural birth, my perfect plan was a drug free water birth and i was devastated that I couldn’t have it, unfortunately I had to have csections to birth my babies, but it was my only option.

I don’t think its anything to brag about! Everyone’s birthing is different, some more painful than others not to mention anything can happen at any given moment which leads to complications. I’ve had x3 children and x2 of the birthing was drug free but one of them was not by choice! Giving birth even with drugs is PAINFUL!! everyone should be proud no matter if they have drug free or have pain relief to help.

I went drug free. I wanted to feel and experience every moment…both good and bad. Was not easy but I am happy with how it went.

I was lucky enough to be able to have a completely natural birth but it doesn’t matter how you get there it is the end result that counts and that is a happy, healthy Mum and bub. Instead of competing how about we just support and be happy for each other.