Make me wonder if her children ever had the freedom to eat an ice cream on a hot day and not worry about it running down the cone and creating memories of the day you all sat eatting ice cream and ended up a mess but how much fun that was.

Seriously, once it’s out of your hands, who cares? I wouldn’t give a toss.

Once you give something away, it’s not yours anymore and not of your concern. She should let it go. Even when they have 1 day of pleasure out of it, it’s worthy !

If you gift someone with anything,you shouldnt bother on how they use it.just remove your mind off it.

Maybe the neighbour didn’t want to be given hand-me-down clothes for her children.
Simple, don’t give her any more. Donate them to a recognised charity. Some share lists of what is needed and share the items where they are most needed. Some church school accept clothes and other items. I know of at least one in Adelaide which has lists supplied by charities and anything they don’t need to hand on to those on the lists

I don’t like Constance Hall but I hope she finds a way to cope.

She sounds a bit nutty to me.

Why give clothes away if your worried about what is going to happen to them. Any clothes i get given to me as seconds i use as rags.
If my kid wanted to play in the mud i would put her in clothes someone had handed down to me unless they are new than i don’t see an issue.

I’m guessing she is one of those people who don’t allow their children to have fun in case they ruin their clothes.

Seriously, if I donate goods I’m happy they are ‘trashed’. That way I know they are loved and being used well.

If you donate things you have no say in how they are treated. I donated things to my friend and when she passed away her daughter started selling them knowing they were free. Whether it bothered me or not, once donated or given away it is no longer yours so she needs to let it go. And who spends $100 on an outfit that can only be worn for a very short time before being outgrown.

She did give them away so she can’t control what is going to happen to them!

Wow, this woman should build a shrine to pay homage to her daughters’ old clothes….sheesh. She gave them away, she needs to get over it. It is the receivers choice how they use the gift. I really look after my family clothes too, but once I give them away, they are gone…no longer mine to care about. I think she needs some therapy or something….LOL.

Gee, I am never going to accept second hand clothes from anymore.

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  • • cherz replied
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This is really funny. Once you hand over your clothes to someone else you have no control over what they do with them or how they wear them. I often hand over my son’s clothes and love seeing them re-appear on other boys in the same or a different way. However, I lose the attachment once they’re gone. Things I’m not happy to give to our friends, I donate to charity.

What makes you think anyone would want or appreciate your SECOND hand clothes?Do not offend me by offering your princess outfits as I will have to offend you by declining,Cheer’s Krusty.

It can be hard seeing what others do to the clothes you give them. I like to not know where the clothes go as I looked after them so well. My clothes have all been homemade so have extra love in them. So my clothes go to the charity bins.

why donate them then and not lock them in a cupboard? No longer yours dear, you can’t control what happens to them

I would be over joyed to see them being worn and feel proud that this neighbour likes my choice of cloths, certainly would not be bothered how they treat them.

I am trying to declutter my home and one of the biggest hurdles I face is trying not to worry about what will happen to tings once I pass them on. I guess it’s about me placing a higher, (and often emotional), value on these things than others will. I can see that the problem lays with my thinking. I’m wondering if that is the same for this Mum?