Mum turns to social media after her teenage daughter experienced body-shaming from a nurse during a recent check-up.
In the Facebook group “Moms of Tweens and Teens,” Julie Venn shared how her teenage daughter was treated during a recent health check.
“Enter Nurse Practitioner,” Ms Venn writes. “She begins by asking many questions, ‘What’s your bedtime, How much exercise do you get? Are you involved in sports? Do you get enough dairy in your diet?’ She asks her multiple times (if there’s) anything else going on I should know about? [sic]”
Ms Venn says her daughter answered all of the questions honestly, admitting that school the year before had been difficult, but despite the teen’s answers, the nurse practitioner seemed dissatisfied.
“The NP then looks down at her computer, then back up at Riley’s face and says to my 13 year old daughter, “Tell me RILEY, HOW CAN YOU EXPLAIN ALL OF THIS WEIGHT YOU’VE GAINED?”
Ms Venn writes that her daughter was caught off guard and noticed that her eyes “begin to glass over.” The nurse went on to explain that the “numbers don’t correlate” with her current weight and the numbers from last year, and began accusing the teen of eating junk food.
Jumping into action, Ms Venn writes, “I had a literal, physical reaction. I put my hand up and said, ‘STOP! You need to stop talking to my daughter about her weight. She is 13, she is strong. She is healthy and she is PERFECT. You need to move on!’”
Afterwards the nurse asked Ms Venn to join her in the hallway for a private discussion. Once out of earshot from her daughter, the nurse asked why Venn had reacted so strongly.
“I explained under no uncertain terms that she was out of line in the way she dealt with my daughter. Our girls need to be empowered and supported and celebrated,” Ms Venn says.
“They already have to compare themselves to ridiculous social media bullshit standards. They are flooded with images of perfection via TV, YouTube, Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat. Their whole freaking lives have a filter on them!”
The teenager was also shocked – “Riley’s response when we left was, ‘Mom, this is why kids have anorexia or feel like they want to hurt themselves,’” she continues. “She is exactly right!”
Here’s what you COULD have said to my daughter and all of the beautiful young ladies you impact wrote the angry mum –
“Hey kiddo. Let me tell you how exciting this time of your life is. I see you have started to grow into being a strong young woman and that is awesome! Know that some girls gain weight, some lose weight, some struggle with acne, some feel insecure but remember this- YOU ARE PERFECT just the way you are. As you mature you will be responsible for more things that pertain to your body- hygiene, activity, menstruation, exercise and healthy eating. This is just the beginning of a long, confusing, sometimes scary road to becoming a woman but it is worth it!
Good on you mum! This body shaming is getting ridiculous.
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