'My Best Friend Breastfed My Baby And I'm Furious'

A new mum has lashed out at her bestie, after she decided to breastfeed her baby without permission.

The 23-year-old new mum says she decided not to breastfeed her baby, because of the amount of pain it was causing, and she adds that she doesn’t ‘see anything wrong with being formula fed’.

“I dropped of my baby to my best friends house because I needed to do a few things and decided that it would be easier if the baby wasn’t with me,” she explained on reddit.

“I left him with enough formula to last him the time I would be gone and I even put enough for an extra bottle just in case he was extra hungry that day. My best friend has also just had a baby however she is breast feeding her baby and doesn’t agree with my decision to formula feed.

“But she does not know the reasons I am not going to do that because it is none of her business and I feel that if I told her she would end up calling me selfish or something like that.”

After finishing her errands, the woman went to pick up her baby from her best friend, who admitted she had something to confess.

“She told me that she needed to admit something to me. Naturally I thought that my baby had hurt himself or something but, no. She told me that she felt like my child was being left out when she was breastfeeding her child and decided to let my baby try it.

“She then told me that he seemed to enjoy it so continued to breastfeed him instead of the formula I had given her. I am completely upset about this and when I told her she told me I was over reacting and that if didn’t need to get so angry with her about it.”

“She thought she was doing a nice thing and thinks that every baby should be breastfed. I talked with my boyfriend about this and he understands how I feel and that my friend had no right to do that especially without knowing the reasons behind us deciding not to breastfeed. I haven’t spoken to her since and its been about a week.”

What do you think? Let us know in the comments below.

41 Comments

- - meedee said
  - 03 Oct 2024
    12:54 pm
Im not sure that this friend is really a friend. Why would you think that a “friend” would call you selfish for making the choice not to breast feed your child? If you think that someone is this judgemental of you then why on earth would you be calling them a friend in the first place?

- - Lividanke said
  - 31 Aug 2024
    8:08 pm
In my opinion this just isn’t on. Breastfeeding is such a personal thing and unless you agree to someone else breastfeeding your baby then it shouldn’t happen.

- - Zmijka86 said
  - 24 Nov 2022
    8:57 pm
No…definitely its a big no from me.

- - mom461384 said
  - 29 Oct 2022
    2:19 pm
She has completely crossed the line. She should not have done this to you or your boy

- - Dockerchic said
  - 01 Oct 2022
    2:16 pm
Oh hell no. That is completely crossing a line.

- - ashna9 said
  - 24 Sep 2022
    8:55 pm
She definitely should not have done that!

- - ~Loui~ said
  - 26 Aug 2022
    12:27 am
This seems like such a strange and disrespectful thing to do.

- - tessie said
  - 22 Aug 2022
    3:27 pm
I could understand her breastfeeding your child if she’d run out of formula and couldn’t get you on the phone but I don’t agree with her doing this because she wanted to. Bet she wouldn’t have liked it if she dropped her baby with you with pumped breast milk and you fed him the formula you feed your baby.

- - mom485263 said
  - 15 Aug 2022
    10:45 am
Why didn’t she ask? If she has extra milk why didn’t the bf express and offer it? I don’t get it. She over stepped big time.

- - mom93821 said
  - 14 Aug 2022
    7:10 am
Trust and respect are essential for any relationship and this appears to have been completely and unsurprisingly broken.

- - mom101628 said
  - 13 Aug 2022
    7:27 pm
Well that is certainly one best friendship gone down the drain. Amazed they didn’t talk more to each other or open up with each other – that’s normally what ‘best’ friends do.

- - Mum's R Best said
  - 12 Aug 2022
    9:40 am
You hear about this kind of thing happening. Her best friend had no right to breastfeed her child. Totally speachless

- - mom459320 said
  - 10 Aug 2022
    12:41 pm
Not the good thing she did because she need to ask the mom before doing such a thing!

- - snazzy007 said
  - 10 Aug 2022
    8:45 am
May be the baby needed comfort and she had her hands full hopefully issue resolved

- - Amanda Holland said
  - 09 Aug 2022
    9:11 pm
Breastfeeding isn’t for everyone, and that’s OK. No one should be judged, as long as the baby is fed and happ and healthy, that’s all that matters.
What she did was not OK
- mom93821 replied
  
  22 Aug 2022 , 7:47 am
  I am surprised that there is still judgment about breastfed vs bottle fed. A fed and cared for baby is the priority and the mother of the baby should be respected.
- - emilys said
  - 09 Aug 2022
    8:42 pm
Not cool. A major violation of trust! Definitely need to have a chat with her friend about it- I’m sure her intentions weren’t wrong but bad decision!

- - mom265671 said
  - 09 Aug 2022
    8:37 pm
Regardless of how she feels, she shouldve definitely had to ask permission before doing such a thing. It crosses the line for sure.

- - MumofOne said
  - 09 Aug 2022
    7:03 pm
There’s got to be more to this. I can’t fathom why best friends wouldn’t share things with each other, such as a reason to breastfeed, or not, their child. I’ve never spoken that way about a close friend; that something isn’t her business. That’s cold.

I admit I’m not down with the friend ultimately ignoring the bottles and could see breastfeeding her friends child in the event that all other avenues were exhausted and a phone call to say, ‘hey, things are escalating here, would you mind if I tried offering my breast milk to settle baby’ or some such.

If you value this friendship have the uncomfortable conversation.

- - mom160270 said
  - 09 Aug 2022
    5:57 pm
Her friend crossed the line and was/is arrogant about it as well. I would be furious too. I’m surprised that the breastfeeding friend has not even bothered to apologise in the week following.

- - mom111059 said
  - 09 Aug 2022
    4:32 pm
No No No that’s just wrong. I would be furious. Not a great idea for the friend to do.
- Ellen replied
  
  10 Aug 2022 , 4:22 am
  What type of a friendship is this ? It seems not one based on trust. This will certainly impact the friendship and this mum may start doubting the friendship