100% you are not foing anything wrong and although your babies are important so are you and your sanity. Its horrible that your partner would be so unsupportive and lack understanding. Its very bad that he would talk to his familiy about this. Get him to come along to a Doctors visit with you and speak to the Doc about how you take time out and get him to explain to your husband how important it is.

One baby is hard enough, I couldn’t imagine 3 babies! Everyone needs to be able to have a break from the stress – sounds like this mum has done it responsibly

I don’t think you’ve been neglectful at all!
I actually think you’ve been very responsible and considered. You’ve recognised that your frustration was feuding and you needed just a few minutes of fresh air to settle your stress and then continue to care for your bouncing baby trio 🙂
As long as you know the babies were in a safe place and you had a monitor (as you stated) I don’t see a single issue with what you did and I’d personally encourage you to keep going.
Babies feel stress and anxiety from parents do just that couple of minutes collecting yourself will probably make subsequent attempts to settle them much more successful.
All the best super mum! (We had twins first and then 3, 3yo and under – it’s a jungle out there lol)

New Dads dont always get it – bear with him, in time you two will adjust.

I don’t see this as neglect, I see this as personal care. The babies are 8 weeks old and you have a baby monitor. You are doing what is needed for you as well. How is this any different to hanging out the washing on the close line?

It won’t hurt the triplets to have a cry especially if you are so close by. Take care of yourself.

How sad that your fiance and his family have this attitude. They should be supportive

We all have moments where we need to step away and regroup. Better that then staying and snapping.
Maybe give dad a go for a week and see what happens when he becomes overwhelmed and has no one to call on.

Try this at least, you are only 20…QBear to the rescue young lady!

How dare they? As a Mother, oftentimes the best thing you can do is step away, take a deep breath, calm down, so you can be the best person for your child. Perhaps if her husband and his mother were more supportive, they would understand.

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  • • CathEC replied
    • 17 Jan 2023 , 6:03 am

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  I agree!

Triplets would be a lot for anyone. I would think the fiance and his family would understand that and give this young mum a helping hand rather than criticism.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 17 Jan 2023 , 8:35 am

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  I agree, rather a sad situation.

Sad that the husband has such little understanding and then gets his family on his side

Support, understanding and kind and caring communication is needed.

I think everyone here agrees you are not doing the wrong thing – but somehow you have to live in this situation, and I can imagine that that is stressful as well. I do hope that everyone calms down somewhat and you get a little more help from your in-laws and your husband even if they cannot realise your point of view. Better to be able to see them on the monitor than to hurt them in your frustration, eh? Maybe you could get the maternity nurse or whatever they are called these days to point this out to them.

Maybe they should help! Geez..gotta look after yourself to, and youve left them

She’s made sure her babies are safe while looking after herself (which is so important for her kids too). I think her fiance and his family need to look at their expectations.

Wow, maybe instead of criticising they could offer to help? She’s obviously doing her best and having a breather is the responsible thing to do so she can return to handle them feeling refreshed instead of frustrated.

Wow
I don’t know how people can be like this so important for your mental health to have time off

Thats disgusting that he called you that. I can only imagine how hard triplets must be as a mum of twins i know how hard that is. Geez going outside for some fresh air with a baby monitor is fine. You need some breathing space sometime. Why dont they give it a go day in and day out see how they handle it. Dont listen to them your doing whats write for you, its better than getting mad at your bubs. Good luck hun.

Geez some people just don’t get it. Triplets are a lot of work, especially in your own. She’s doing the right thing taking some time out otherwise she might have a mental breakdown.
I think a lot of in-laws are quick to judge. She’s doing the best she can on her own and she still has the monitor so can see them, I really don’t get what the problem is.