'My In-Laws' Boinking Noises Are Scaring My 9-Year-Old'

A frustrated dad is at his wits end with his live-in in-laws who are making no effort to hide their amorous encounters from their grandchildren.

The elderly couple live with their son-in-law and their 15-year-old granddaughter and nine-year-old grandson, and their seriously loud lovemaking is causing all sorts of problems.

“My in laws live with me and my two kids, they moved in back in 2018 before my late wife’s passing,” the dad explained on reddit.

“I do not like my in laws, they are rude and obnoxious. They make snide comments about my job, how my oldest dresses and decorated her room (they are devout Catholics and my oldest is what you would consider goth or emo), the toys my nine-year-old plays with (he really likes pink and dolls and all that girly stuff, which I’m fine with they have a problem with).

“I only keep them around because my wife made it very clear before her passing that she wanted her parents to be taken care of by family and not stuck in a nursing home and she was their only child.”

Elderly couple in bed

The dad-of-two explains that recently his 78-year-old father-in-law and 71-year-old mother-in-law, who sleep in the bedroom between the children, have stated being less than discrete with their sex life.

“They’ve started ‘boinking’ very loudly. Before they just used to do it when the kids where at school or in summer clubs, but this year my kids are not signed up for any summer classes or activities so they are home except when they are out with friends.

“It grosses the hell out of my 15 year old and scares my nine-year-old because since he doesn’t know what the sound is and he thinks it’s a monster. I have told them to quiet down multiple times but they never do.

“I have proposed a solution of moving my 15 year old into the attic. It’s bigger and she already spends a lot of time in the attic because she ‘likes it creepy vibe’. I don’t understand her. Then I could move them into her old room and they wouldn’t bother my nine-year-old when they are trying to sleep.

“They don’t like this idea because my daughter’s room is slightly smaller then the room they have now, but if I moved them into the attic then they would be directly over my nine-year-old’s room and he would still be able to hear him, so that wouldn’t be a good solution either.

“They keep saying I’m making a big deal out of this and that I’m being an a**hole by trying to make them move. So am I the a**hole for trying to make them move?”

Gulp. This is a tricky one mums! Let us know what you think this dad should do in the comments below.

52 Comments

- - meedee said
  - 10 Sep 2024
    12:16 pm
Gosh…they sound like very entitled people.
I understand what your wife was saying and its a lovely thought BUT sadly she is not here to look after them and its not fair to put that burden on to you. They need there own place. If they are unable to care for themselves then there are options for people to come in and help through myagedcare. If not then perhaps a home would be best, its not what your wife wanted but as harsh as it is she is not here. You have a life to live and so do your children.

- - mom57569 said
  - 29 Dec 2023
    8:10 am
Let them know that they are not your parents and that they are in your house because of your late wife’s wishes. You don’t mention if they help around the house by cooking, cleaning etc. It sounds like they are pushing your buttons and getting a thrill out of it. Maybe you will have to treat them like kids as they seem to be acting as spoilt kids. You need to clear the air before everyone hates each other and that would be sad for all involved.

- - ~Loui~ said
  - 27 Dec 2023
    2:58 am
I’d be giving them an ultimatum. Be quiet or get out. It doesn’t sound like a positive environment for your children.

- - Jmac said
  - 01 Jan 2023
    8:31 am
Kick them out. They are not being considerate of the father or the kids. He is the father, whose first priority is to advocate for the kids. He can’t stick to a promise made years ago when things have obviously changed

- - ashna9 said
  - 01 Sep 2022
    6:00 pm
Not at all. They need to be considerate of others in the household. They must be very loud though!

- - mum1 said
  - 31 Jul 2022
    8:01 pm
Nope, not the a**hole. It’s scaring your child! Your house, your rules

- - Zmijka86 said
  - 18 Jul 2022
    9:01 am
I should say good on the inlaws to be still active but they should really consider that someone can hear it.

- - mom461384 said
  - 09 Jul 2022
    1:09 am
Oh wow! You’re definately not in the wrong for trying to make them move!

- - curlytops said
  - 01 Jul 2022
    11:24 pm
71 and 78 are still young enough to live by themselves. If they are being rude about your job and kids choices time they moved on.

- - Lividanke said
  - 01 Jul 2022
    2:00 pm
Nope, you are not in the wrong with this. I wouldn’t be putting up with it and I think you need to sit them down and calmly explain to them what your late wife’s wishes were and that they’re living with you because of those wishes.
I wonder how your in laws would feel if your teenage daughter brought a new boyfriend home and was making these noises in her bedroom while they were around? I know the situation is a bit different but the same things apply. If you brought a girlfriend home and your in laws had to listen to your relations with her in your bedroom, would they be as accepting or tell you that it’s not on?
They’re making it very difficult for everyone to live under the same roof and if they can’t respect you and what you say (which isn’t unreasonable) then they should be the ones to move out.

- - mom93821 said
  - 30 Jun 2022
    6:31 pm
A discussion about respect is definitely in order. All ages need to show respect and follow house rules or find alternative lodgings!

- - sars_angelchik said
  - 27 Jun 2022
    8:57 am
Wow, maybe it’s time for a granny flat?

- - broo-rocky said
  - 27 Jun 2022
    12:45 am
I would remind them, that though they are there as a final wish of their late-daughter, that presumably she would have prioritised the well-being of her children over anything. This level of indiscretion if having an impact on them, so the in-laws need to either stop, or be more discrete, or move out.

- - tessie said
  - 25 Jun 2022
    12:10 pm
I’d make it abundantly clear that they are only living with you out of respect for your late wife and they should respect boundaries as they would have expected it if someone was staying with them. You can either sound proof their room or tell them you will either move them into the room of your choice or you will find them somewhere else to live. I honestly don’t think your late wife would put up with their indiscreet noises.

- - Mum2archer said
  - 24 Jun 2022
    1:42 pm
So glad I never heard anything like this as a kid!!

- - mom462038 said
  - 23 Jun 2022
    11:35 am
I remember hearing my parents going at it when I was a kid. It is scarey to hear and I’m sure it scarred me for life

- - My Littlebuttons said
  - 23 Jun 2022
    10:46 am
Oh umm wow a little no respect from there part

- - Jessica said
  - 22 Jun 2022
    10:46 pm
Wow how inappropriate for them to not care while they’re living in someone else’s house!

- - mom60462 said
  - 22 Jun 2022
    3:07 pm
Hes a great person for having the inlaws live with him, but I dont know how he is putting up with them. Especially if they have a active sex life at their age and are quite about it

- - rovermum said
  - 22 Jun 2022
    9:51 am
Wow! Imagine being considered the a-hole for having your in-laws live with you? I would never! And how inconsiderate of them. He has asked and they don’t care. I’d move them out!