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Not all families get along, in fact with so many personalities in the one family, it’s more likely that most families have a little drama in them, especially when it comes to in-law relationships. One man has shared on reddit that his parents never took a liking to his wife and it has caused for some feathers to be ruffled.

He shared, “I met my wife Sonya at a restaurant where she worked as a waitress. It took me a while to finally be her boyfriend. I introduced her to my parents and they voiced out their disapproval after meeting her.”

His parents immediately disliked his new partner, “My parents think that Sonya is only using me to achieve her American dream. I told them that is racist and I am very offended by their assumption.”

Then the new couple got engaged! He shared, “After my wife accepted my marriage proposal, we asked for both our family’s blessing. Her parents were happy for us but my parents were gutted and refused to give their blessing. Because of this we decided to elope and only invited my brother and Sonya’s best friends to be our witnesses.”

After they refused to give their blessing and didn’t approve of his new wife Sonya, the relationship was very distant and cold. “Long story short, now that we’re 2 years married and after we welcomed our first child, my parents started to reach out to us. My kind-hearted wife didn’t think twice to welcome my parents into our lives. She let them meet our baby 2 days after being discharged from the hospital.”

The new grandparents fell in love with their new grandson Garreth, and started visiting him regularly, “One day while dad and mom are playing with Garreth mom said something along the lines of “aren’t you the cutest baby ever? I am so glad to confirm you are indeed my grandson”.”

Thinking that no one could hear her when she said these words, she was surprised to turn and see her son overheard her comment, “I said “what does that supposed to mean?” Mom tried to change the subject but I insisted she tell me what she’s talking about.”

ALL WAS REVEALED

“Mom sat me down and apologised first before telling me that they had Garreth’s DNA tested to make sure that he’s mine. I was speechless for a moment and before I blew up from anger I told dad to give me my son and they better leave before I lose whatever respect I had left for them. My mom was very apologetic and said it’s because they don’t trust my wife and that our son looks nothing like me.”

He simply asked them to leave the house. “My wife was in the kitchen preparing for lunch and told her my parents had an emergency that’s why they left without saying a word. I didn’t tell my wife about the whole DNA test thing until after two weeks when she asked why mom and dad didn’t visit anymore. I told her everything as I know I cannot keep a secret from her. She started crying and it broke my heart. I know how much she tried to win my parents’ approval and what I told her was like a slap across her face.”

Sonya was understandably hurt and decided she’d had enough, “She told me that she can no longer let my parents in to our child’s life and I agreed with her. When mom called to ask when they can visit again, I told them they are no longer welcome in our son’s life. Mom called my dad and I told him the same thing. He was livid, he called me ungrateful and cruel. He also said a few choice words about my wife which angered me more. I didn’t even hear the rest because I just hung up.”

Would you have done the same? Did the grandparents go too far?

  • I back you 100% your lives your choices and that was unforgivable of your family.

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  • They definitely went too far.
    I can’t believe anyone would do such a thing. One has to accept who our children love.
    They might not always make the right choice but it’s their choice.

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  • I’m so sorry for that poor wife, she’s been through a lot. Those grandparents absolutely deserve to be cut off.

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  • This is a pretty terrible situation. The grand parents are definitely in the wrong and it is hard to see how a DNA test can be performed without consent of the parents. I am not 100% sure though I would block them from my life forever. I would probably lean more to working on forgiveness and trying to build some form of trust. But that sure would take time and in that time my children would not be alone with their grandparents.

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  • What a toxic situation! I would have done the same, how dare they DNA test another persons child without consent from the parents! Absolutely Appalling behaviour. They made the right decision by cutting them out, they would be the types of grandparents that fed bad words and lies to the child about his mum in the future

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  • What horrible people. I would have done the same. They should make the parents get therapy and show proof they are working hard on their issues before letting them back into their sons life.

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  • I know what they did was wrong , but they love you your parents you should give them another chance as they’re your parents. Just set some rules for them to follow. Just small visits at first like an hour . I believe it’s important for them and there grandchild to know each other. Forgiveness is higher strength to people we love.


    • I disagree. The parents have proved toxic and they treat his wife poorly. Being related does not make you entitled to be part of somebodies life. If it is not healthy for you to have them, then cutting them out is not a bad thing and no one should feel guilty for remove toxic people from their lives

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  • Oh man, that’s toxic ! I can totally understand their decision and would probably have done the same.


    • Wonder how the grandparents could have done dna testing behind their back ?

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  • Absolutely rude and you have every right to cut them out of your life.

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  • The parents are horribly toxic and only good will come from cutting them out of their lives until they genuinely accept their son’s wife. From the sounds of it they won’t be seeing them any time soon.

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  • Oh that’s a very sad situation. That’s absolutely incorrect of them to do that.

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  • Some people are just so horrendous!
    I cut my mum out of my life many many years ago and have never once regretted it. She has never met my children and as far as I know she only knows about my eldest child.
    I fully support this man and his decision to cut those monsters out of his life. He is not being ungrateful at all! All they had to do was try to like his wife, but as he pointed out, they are very probably racist.

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  • I love that this husband was 100% with his wife and didn’t let his parents ruin his relationship. What they did was terrible and was not in their rights to do such a thing. What a sad situation.

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  • Wow. They are crazy!!!
    I think sometimes in laws don’t think there’s anyone good enough for their child so it can be hard.
    I’m glad the husband backed the wife up as sometimes the husband chooses the parents which is sad.

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  • All you’ve told us is your parents don’t like or trust your wife and this has to be very much their issue.

    This behaviour from them should not really be any surprise and if you look back in to your childhood you will probably see many signs that are clear now.

    Blocking your parents take more effort and energy on your part than theirs!!

    Try to make a place to let them back into your life and deal with the next drama when it arises.

    Good luck.

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  • What an outrageous intrusion into the parent’s privacy. I’m with them.

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  • Gotta distance yourself sometimes

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  • Some families are like that….I don’t have good relationships with my inlaw and only fact that my son is 100%copy of daddy they can’t say anything

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  • Wow, I don’t blame him. That is absolutely horrible behaviour from 2 very nasty people. I would cut them out too. They had their chance. I’d probably forgive them but it’d take some time and distance.

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