My middle daughter was picked on by a boy who was a year above her and much larger then her. She was a small 5yr old. The school were informed but the bully continued and the best I could get was that “We are working on it with him”…. I started to think about moving my kids to another school. My eldest who was 3 years older decided to take matters into her own hands and one day grabbed this boy by the shirt collar and slammed him up against a tree. She waved her fist in his face and told him that if he dared to ever touch her little sister again she would sort him out. That was the end of the daily torture he put my middle daughter though. Its sad that my eldest had to do that but im glad it worked.

This little boy was incredibly brave.

How awful. Why is that the actual bullies get away with it for indefinite amounts of time, yet when the ones who’ve been taunted for a long time finally react and get in so much trouble? The world can be so unfair and unjust. I wouldn’t have punished my kid for this

I wouldn’t taken the matter into my hands long before it got to that stage. The principle would be seeing me everyday until it stopped and the bullies parents would have been spoken to by me many times

I personally would of high fives him, rewarded him haha

I guess I would make sure the message was clear though, what you did was Amazing but if you become the bully then I won’t be proud of you.

I think you’re little boy did the right thing!!!

I know kids are taught 2 wrongs don’t make a right but when the behaviour of a bully is consistent there is only so much you should have to take. Good on him for standing up for another smaller child

Hate all this bullying

Bullying is getting out of control and I worry about when my son starts school. I think this little boy did the right thing by helping the other child

This happened to my son. He was being jumped on and the boy was trying to ride on my son’s back around the school grounds. His cousin was there and told the bully to stop. When he didn’t his cousin pulled him away from my son. I couldn’t believe it when it was my nephew who got suspended for a week and the bully was allowed to carry on as usual. I did thank my nephew for looking out for my son and put in a very strong complaint to the school about how they dealt with the situation. In the end I stepped in and told the bully’s Mum what was going on. The bullying did cut back for a while but next time he tried it my nephew, my son and a lot of their friends just ignored the bully to the extent that it stopped altogether.

Oh dear I had tears in my eyes. It is a dilemma, be proud he helped another child whilst maintaining that sense of responsibility and hands off approach. I think your child did the right thing regardless however do not play into too much. Explain he was very brave and that in the future tell someone. If that doesn’t work contact the school and ask their advise. Good on your boy!

very delicate subject that requires much thought

Wow I would have told my child to punch the kid back! I’ve always said to them, walk away or ignore 1st or 2nd time if they do it again then clobber them back and I’ll deal with the school let them come see me about it. I know it’s bad but that’s how I feel.

I’m so proud of your son though! If that was my kid I would have high fived them & hugged them told them how proud I would be I wouldn’t be able to help myself. BUT I would also make sure they are well aware of the consequences for getting involved because it wasn’t their fight so they need to understand both sides.

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  • • mom160421 replied
    • 25 Feb 2020 , 1:12 pm

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  Well said. I 100% agree with you.

Bullies often are bullied themselves, so know no different, but that’s no excuse at being a bully!
Good on your son for sticking up for the other kid. My son is the same & I’m always saying to him violence doesn’t solve anything, it’s best to walk away.. he still struggles in dealing with bullies but is becoming more resilient. Maybe you could speak to the parent(s).. you’ll soon have your answer. If not monitor it yourself by being at the school & stay to observe any behaviour.. Surely they have staff on duty?!..
No child should be bullied!

Unfortunately a lot of bullies have parents that don’t care, in my experience anyway. We can teach our kids to be kind, not to harm others and to be resilient.

This is exactly hat has happened to my granddaughter. She was picked on ever since she started school and the school did nothing to help her. Now her little brother has started school and she saw him being picked on by bigger boys one day and went to his aid. He was being choked and she pulled the boy off her brother and got in trouble for putting her hands on another pupil and the bully who has a slight learning disability was let off. He is a very large boy and has done this to many children boys and girls at the school and his disability is giving him a pass on the violence. One day he is going to really hurt someone and the lack of action by the school is disgraceful.

I would be so proud of either of my kids if they did that. In all honesty it’s the school’s fault for not doing something about it. Obviously, the kid has problems and that’s why he is acting out in this way, but it still needs to be stopped. Talks need to be had with parents and failing that, the child should be expelled. I know that’s probably not the ideal thing but he needs to learn that his actions have consequences.

My son has been the victim of relentless bullying through his primary and secondary schooling and we handled it many different ways depending on support. What we basically found was that schools are not up to handling things at all. We always felt they would protect our son, keep him safe, document things (as I had done), only to find both schools let him down time and time again. In the end we left, and they understood, but seemingly were at a loss as to how to handle it. Know your child. Support your child. Do what is best for your child. And if you need to move them from their school, do it.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 21 Feb 2020 , 4:46 am

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  I agree, but sad you had this experience !

Such a hard situation. How can you e correct teachers to sorry out bullying when there are so many legal matters that tie their hands, kids are having a fight but the teachers are told not to get involved because they can then hey in trouble for touching the students. It is all such a touchy subject. I applauded you for what you are teaching your son, that it’s not ok to push but he had also stood up for his friends which is good thing too.

I gets bad when you have to tell your son just to let’s the kids bully you if you what to have a lunch time at school as he got in to more trouble at school for stand up for him self than the child who bullies. And the school who doesn’t care.

So hard to teach your son to turn the other cheek so to speak when this bully is around and not being controlled by the school. You are more patient than I would have been I think, but I am sure your young man will grow up to be a wonderful credit to the way he has been reared and he sounds like he will always be compassionate on others behalf.